to not know how to be taken seriously?

[ahbollocks]

I've started a new job today,
If anyone remembera my first few threads I got made redundant and had a ctappy time interviewing etc.
Anyway, I've landed a job in a company that has brilliant opportunities, good pay. Most of their staff stay around 20-30 years .
I just have no idea how to be taken seriously, as someone you would want to promote, give responsibility to etc.
I've always been the tea maker/card buyer/birthday rememberer, which is nice for being liked but means you are kind of considered part of the furniture.
Any advice?

sorry for all typos- my ipad is cracked

Just do your job and be easy to work with. I don't think there's any more to it than that.

Am I being naive?

Be breezy and professional, don't get embroiled in gossip and office politics, make work your no. 1 priority (when you're there only of course!) and stop worrying about being "liked", it's far more important to be respected than thought of as the office doormat.

I've never been the tea maker/card buyer/birthday rememberer. If you are going into a new company with established staff, there will already be these people and they will not want their status shifting.

Do your job, be nice, take notes, don't make mistakes.

Do your job
Be professional
Dont shag anyone at work
Read The Rules of work, it's a good guide
Volunteer for things
Look the part, be smart
Find a mentor

Think like the "next level up"
I have a load of staff who will default to "I don't know, I'll have to ask" then stand over me whilst I'm on a phone and emailing whilst eating my lunch to ask "where's the form for x" so I can say "in the folder called forms".
If I had someone who clicked on that a) I'm busy and b) had exhausted all methods of trying to work it out for themself before asking me, and c) came up with an idea to make something more simple/useful, I'd promote them.
I'd know that they had initiative, were methodical, thought ahead and the bonus- can make my life a bit easier

From one bollock to another congratulations !

Do the job you are paid to do , smile a lot and try not to gossip

Haha ohbollock thanks very much!

What Barbarella said.

Focus on the job, be professional, reliable and efficient.
Stay away from gossip, don't get pulled into office politics, don't get too personal to your colleagues (do make conversation, be polite, look interested but don't overshare or try to make best friends)
Being liked is important but you shouldn't be trying to be friends with everyone (for example by being the card buyer/coffee maker).
I sometimes have to remind myself i'm at work, that the guy next to me is going to give me a review in 6 months, that these are my colleagues, not friends because it's hard for me not to get too friendly with people when I'm spending more time with them than my DP. Hope this makes sense.
I'm sure you'll do great!!! Good luck!

Always be punctual, if possible early, it will be noticed.
Be anal about detail
Volunteer regularly
Be pleasant but don't give away too much of your personal life.
Can you tell I brown nosed my way up?

Oh yes, resist gossip at all costs, no matter how appealing and bonding it may be.

Thankyou so much for kind replies.
I have always just kind of floated around and enjoyed weekends and a social life but I have watched dh climb higher and higher since I got pregnant (have 3yo now) and I want that too, a good salary, a 'proper' career. Something I can be proud of!

• Make sure you have a professional line with colleagues (eg don't get over friendly)
• be professional and look professional
• do your job
• be open to change and be flexible
• if you have ideas, speak up
• try looking (speaking) confident even if you are shitting yourself inside
• try not to be late
• try not to moan. If you are unhappy or uncomfortable about something then be professiona and assertive/direct about your issue. Always try to provide a solution to your problem.
• take ownership of your role and responsibilities
• as someone said above, don't sleep with anyone at work
• don't gossip and try not to get involved in the office bitching

Congratulations and good luck

Great rules there. I'd add- let it be known what you'd really like to do in term of what direction youd like totake within the company. Also, be discreet . Don't pass on information that you aren't certain the person who told you is happy to share.

Dress Well. Good luck!

Don't get drunk.
Suss people out before trusting them.
Stay low key at the beginning-don't give too much away.
Keep your private life private.
Be a bit mysterious
Don't be too keen to be liked. Polite is good.

These are brilliant!

No, don't take on the teasmaid/ mum role! In meetings, do not crack and offer to make tea. Go through your notes instead and don't sit near the door/ machine.

Dress appropriately for work always. Look professional. Don't gossip.
Have regular 1:1 with your manager, ask for KPI's and feedback, ask for a mentor within the company, find out who the key players are, network like mad, make friends with all the EAs and PAs and ask about training, succession planning, make it very clear you are there to make to company more successful and if you can't think of anything to say don't speak or babble:)

arrive on time, leave on time, don't eat at your desk if you can help it, and don't make personal calls, waste time.

Ask your dh what he does. He sounds like he's got it sorted:)

Be professional and don't let people take advantage.. there is normally someone that tries their luck with a newbie. Fake confidence until you have it for real :D

Work when you are at work, don't fritter away time on chat but do small talk with colleagues if/when they are receptive. Never cry at work or use emotional manipulation to get what you want. Accept guidance/criticism without getting emotional/stroppy. Leave off with the incessant birthday, leaving, bereavement, pregnancy gift buying - not your responsibility and can be tiresome. Fulfill all promises and if you know you aren't going to be able to because of time or other constraints, let people know early on rather than whinging about how badly treated you are once you've failed to deliver. Be aware that other people may try to stitch you up to save their own asses so get stuff in writing (e-mail) whenever possible.

And this. The emotional/stroppy is a huge no, no...

Accept guidance/criticism without getting emotional/stroppy. Leave off with the incessant birthday, leaving, bereavement, pregnancy gift buying - not your responsibility and can be tiresome.

Ask questions! You don't have to know everything. Don't keep quiet and do the wrong thing being afraid you'll look stupid.

If in doubt you can always send someone an email that says "i need to do X, i presume because of Y and Z that i will do it via Q". That way you can let ot be known you can work stuff out on your own but avoid making errors by confirming if something is important.

Setting up and organising a work calendar is really important. Maintain it every day that way you will always be organised.

Some more thoughts:

Manage expectations - always check when something has to be finished by
Do what you say you'll do - be reliable
Always document actions from meetings and do yours by the due date
Keep a list and prioritise well