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to wonder how you'd deal with this

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blackcatgreeneyes · 02/03/2015 07:41

My friend was in my car and my phone was charging.

She started going through it looking on Facebook at the profiles of people she doesn't get on with.

So how would you deal with it?

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Humansatnav · 02/03/2015 07:42

Id tell her to put it down, of course. Did you ?

IDontDoIroning · 02/03/2015 07:44

A - tell her she's being realky cheeky and to feck off
B- Put a password on it and don't ever tell her
C never give her a lift again until she gets some manners and can respect other peoples property and privacy

ChipDip · 02/03/2015 07:44

That's very rude of her. I would say 'excuse me what are you doing?'.
She doesn't have respect for you if she thinks nothing of doing this.

TheMoa · 02/03/2015 07:45

I'd just take it out of her hand.

It's a bit weird that she felt OK to look at your phone at all, so she must be thick skinned enough to cope with a WTF look and an 'oi, put it down'.

CocobearSqueeze · 02/03/2015 07:45

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FenellaFellorick · 02/03/2015 07:48

I'd say put that down.

ssd · 02/03/2015 07:49

take it off her, cheeky cow

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blackcatgreeneyes · 02/03/2015 07:58

I don't bother with a password as I'm the only adult at home and I use it a lot so constantly putting a password on is annoying!

I said - "woah, what are you doing!" and she just laughed. I was Shock

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YoniMitchell · 02/03/2015 07:59

Just take it off her
Tell her it's rude to just go through other people's phones/FB
Put a password on your phone

Easy as that IMO.

What did you do?

SaucyJack · 02/03/2015 08:00

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Why would it?

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blackcatgreeneyes · 02/03/2015 08:01

Why should I have the faff of putting a password on my phone because in a lifetime ONE person has gone through it!

I'd be interested to know how I could safely take it off her when I was driving but anyway - I've said what I did above.

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blackcatgreeneyes · 02/03/2015 08:02

Well that's okay that it wouldn't bother you Saucy - but can you really not see how it would bother others?

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Only1scoop · 02/03/2015 08:03

Put a passcode on your phone so if anyone else gets hold of it you are protected....if you lose it etc.

SaucyJack · 02/03/2015 08:04

No, I really can't see why anyone would care.

How does it affect you in the slightest if she's looking at someone's FB profile? It's not the same as going through someone's inbox.

Or is it that she didn't ask first?

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blackcatgreeneyes · 02/03/2015 08:05

Only - I have had a password on it before and it was a pain in the arse. I use my phone a lot - for work mainly - and constantly putting the code in and out was such a nuisance, especially when driving (I don't mean I use it when driving but things like music, sat nav and so on.) It absolutely drained the battery!

I have honestly never come across this before and was a bit taken aback.

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TendonQueen · 02/03/2015 08:09

I'd have done what you did, but then I'd have pulled over and actually taken it from her. It's very rude.

Actually, if you're going to be in the car with her again, you could start typing out a text that says 'Friend's name shouldn't nose into other people's stuff, no good comes of it' so that if she picks up the phone that will come up on the screen first.

lavenderhoney · 02/03/2015 08:10

When she laughed did she just carry on? when you've asked her to stop?

MinceSpy · 02/03/2015 08:13

Pain or not I password protect my phone just in case I loose it, I don't want random people going through my personal stuff or running up my bill phoning abroad etc.
What would I have done in your situation? Asked her to put my phone down, stopped when safe and removed phone from her view if necessary. I never had a friend do that but it might be a friendship ended.

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blackcatgreeneyes · 02/03/2015 08:15

Yep, just carried on.

We did pull over soon after that anyway (as had arrived at destination) and I put my hand out but there was still a couple of seconds before she handed it over!

So rude!

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cozietoesie · 02/03/2015 08:20

I do hope you never let her loose in your house ? She has boundary problems enough to have made me fearful about the contents of private drawers etc.

kissmethere · 02/03/2015 09:06

Ok that is rude!! Very intrusive!
It really sounds to me that she is immature and I'd have actually given her a piece of my mind. If it ever happens again I'd seriously warn her she has 2 seconds to put it down before you kick her out of the car/house etc.

MidniteScribbler · 02/03/2015 09:08

"Give me my phone" would pretty much cover it.

Are you usually this much of a wet blanket?

PurpleSwift · 02/03/2015 09:08

If she was a friend then this would not bother me at all.

If it does bother you just ask them to put the phone down.

Teeb · 02/03/2015 09:15

I'd have completely lost my shit with her to be honest. I'm a very private person and so this would be a huge red flag for me, how bloody dare she think that's okay? To me a phone these days is more akin to a personal diary. I couldn't resist each future time you see her sighing and saying ''oh I'd better put a password on my phone now hadn't I, seeing as you have issues with invading my boundaries,'

Staywithme · 02/03/2015 09:19

I'd be pissed off if I was one of your friends that she doesn't get on with and I knew she saw my profile on your phone. If she's blocked from seeing their stuff there's a reason for that and I think her behaviour has shown why your friends don't like her.

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