To feel completely infuriated with my fat self?

[AuntFlossy]

But if background... I have 3 children under the age of 6, I work a management level job full time hours in 4 days with copious amounts of over time. Last week I worked a 73 hour week as well as trying to do my best for the kids.

I've struggled with my weight for years in and off. I'm not huge, I'm 5'7 and weight about 12st11. But I am bloody miserable that nothing fits me. My problem is I know what I need to do, but no matter how hard I try I keep slipping off the wagon. In at the point where I'm infuriated by myself. Prior to this if I put my mind to it I would always stick to it and lose weight. But I have no commitment to it and tbh it just feels like a challenge I simply can't win. How do I sort myself out? Everything else in my life is great, I'm happily married, 3 lovely children etc but I hate myself for how much I weigh now.

Sorry for the typos! I'm on my mobile and the app is horrendous to use and won't let me go back and edit easily!

YANBU. I don't think you sound massive though. Would you consider cycling? It helped me SO much.

Don't be too hard on yourself. It sounds like you have a lot going on and a very busy life! 73 hour working week sounds horrendous plus looking after the kids. Does this mean that you grab what you can to eat when you can? I know I would probably be living on a lot of bought/take away food? or am I completely wrong?

ps I don't think you sound massive either but it can be very frustrating when you have a wardrobe full of clothes you cant get in! I am in same boat atm

You're pretty much my size in both senses, but I don't think of myself as fat. However, I do carry a lot in boobs and bum, everyone has a different body shape. My advice is, don't do anything like a 'diet', any changes you need to make have to fit into your life. For example, snacks. Don't deny yourself a treat, just swap some things. I find that lemon Greek yougurt hits the 'sugar' spot , but less guilt involved. Dinner time, use a smaller plate to eat from. If you can walk somewhere instead of transport then do it. Small things eventually all work together to make changes.

You sound like you've got a lot on your plate. Can you spend a couple of hours researching and planning, say, three main evening meals you really, really love - you have to love them! - that are healthy and easy to cook/prepare in advance, that you can make each week? For me, it would be veggie chilli, tomato and lentil soup with rye toast and thai veggie noodle soup (I'm not a vegetarian, but eating no meat is quicker, cheaper and healthier in these meals). Chilli and soup can also be made in the slow cooker :)

If you love them you will look forward to eating them. Reheat at work for a filling lunch.

Since I got a pedometer, I have taken to a short but quick walk at lunchtime (teacher, 40 min lunch hour). I know you do a condensed week, but is there any chance of this?

I'm a similar size and have similar pressures. I know how you feel. I would say that House of Fraser currently has a great sale on and since only skinny types shop there normally, there's tonnes available for us fatties!

Thanks everyone. I do have a lot on my plate. My job is very demanding and most of the time my mind is split thinking about 10 different things at any one time. I'm always forgetting to take food into work with me and we seem to have a bit of a culture of going out for food. Friday is hot pulled pork day!

I seem to have a massive appetite since having my daughter (now aged 1). I breastfed her until just before Christmas and was always starving so I'm now stuck in a habit of constantly eating and eating far too much.

I'm also an emotional eater so if I'm stressed I eat and it's never carrot sticks I reach for! I know I'm not huge but im quite unfit too. I'm lucky if I get 15 minutes to eat my lunch and even then I tend to sit and eat at my desk.

My husband is a big eater so I'm used to eating large portions. I want to start doing some form of exercise but have no idea where to start and how I'm expected to fit it in :(

Could you start by walking/cycling to work? Also maybe take your own lunch in which helps to cut down on eating out. Don't be too hard on yourself. You have a long working week and 3dc under 6, that's hard enough trying to find time for yourself. Are you part of a gym?

You could just buy some bigger clothes and stop beating yourself up.

Try the 16:8 diet. On days when I'm really busy it works especially well as eating is one less thing to 'worry avout'. I'm not massive, similar height to you and have gone from 13st 2 to 12st 4 in the past 6 weeks with very little effort.

No I'd love to join a gym but don't feel like I can justify the cost when I've got 3 little ones needing clothes and shoes etc. Money can be tight what with ridiculous childcare costs. I worked out that over half term it actually cost me money to go to work :(

I know there are things I could do like walking at lunch time etc but I feel so pushed for time I don't know how to fit it in. I can't bike it to work as its. 40 minute drive away and I have to drop 2 off at nursery on my way to work.

I've been and bought a few bigger bits but to be quite honest I look awful. I look fat and grumpy. I ended up shopping Evans because I couldn't find anything to suit me in shops like Primark (honestly their clothes look great until you try them on).

I managed to get a amp air of black jeggings finally so felt a bit better, then my lovely husband put them in the dryer and I now can't fit into them. I honestly nearly cried. I live in leggings and baggy tops

Grump = frumpy, although tbh I feel bloody grumpy! Lol

Have a look at www.eatingless.com

Might help clarify some stuff for you. It took me a while to really understand it, but its very, very helpful. All the best, xx

I'm doing the 7 minutes High Intensity Workout, not the Davina DVD, I'm just watching the exercises on You Tube. I've been doing them for a week and already am noticing a change. I think I might be roughly the same size as you. I can't stress how unfit I probably am, but every day the exercise had been easier and I feel better and more motivated to work on what I'm eating. It's been the kick up the arse I've needed.