Here's the background.....(bit long but multi choice at the bottom)
In January I got all my ducks in a row and sent my now exP a solicitors letter asking him to go or I was going to court.
Fast forward to now, he lives in the same village in a cottage I helped him to rent, and he has the car and all his crap really important things, and I have our old house, our 2 Dss for 13 nights out of 14, and the dog and cat.
He is a selfish man, controlling and emotionally manipulative. Financially crippling. He kept a log of every time I shouted at the boys, recorded me, threatened me I lose the children if I tried to go. And I stayed. 10 years worth. I tried to get out 2 years ago and failed. We moved last year, and by the Autumn it all started coming together, and I got the strength and support to break free.
After I gave him the letter he went crazy. For at least the first week he told anyone who would listen that 'xxxx (me) has a history of violence'.
(Which is utter cr*p btw)
But because of that I have been interviewed / quizzed / checked out and questioned by the police, social services, a child psychologist, and educational psychologist, my domestic abuse adviser, doctors, solicitors, the head teacher, and mutual friends.
Everyone to a T saw the truth, many have hugged me and all of them have given me strength...
EXCEPT
ExP has 2 sisters and 2 grown up children, and they did not see it that way, apparently. I know they want to support their brother / dad but (and a big one) BUT according to ExP they were all prepared to go to court against me. 
I've not had any contact with any of them since the letter. All I have is hearsay that they are 'not impressed'
So, the eldest of the grown up children has arrived in the village this afternoon. He is staying locally with his girlfriend in the B&B, ExP cousin and a friend are staying too as it is ExP birthday monday. Our Ds 1&2 are staying with him for the first time tonight for the birthday get together.
And I'm sat here wanting / willing to bump into ExP son and....
what do I do? I want to cuss him off for...for what.
What the F was he doing saying hed go to court when he'd seen his D, knows his D and knew the suffering we went through in our home.
Why does he not come to me and say anything, I've just got to sit here, wondering if I'm going to bump into them in the village - sods law its going to happen. AIBU to feel so angry towards him. I gotta work out what to say before it happens. I do and don't want this meeting to happen, but eventually it will. Do I take the first step? Find him out.
We were close, 10 years the mum to his little bros (and we are close in age, ExP is lots older than me), and poof all gone to nothing??
What do I do?
A) Keeping a kipper in me bag, and treat him to an improvised slap to the death silent movie type greeting outside the Post Office.
B) Lurk behind a bush then when he pops out, stroll up and say something witty, but cutting (aka)
C) Be mature and grounded, let fate decide (but walk the dog lots) and say 'Hi' if it happens, and let it go if it don't
I would like votes for A please, AIBU?? xx