to do a straw poll of separated parents?

[MsColouring]

How do you communicate with your ex? Does anyone use a contact book?

We speak at a set time every week to discuss plans for the week, things going on with DS, upcoming events if they impact on contact time etc. Sometimes this call only takes 2 mins if neither of us has much to say but we always do it and it was very useful in the early days of the bad breakup to keep lines of communication open.

We also text and email during the week if things come up, sometimes even send photos of DS etc now that we're finally getting on a bit better.

I've never heard of a contact book and it wasn't suggested by either of our solicitors.Email does sound like the logical solution - why is your ex against it?

Rare texts. Even rarer phone calls. We keep contact to a minimum but try to maintain a veneer of civility. DS is older now so it's all that's required. We both listen to his needs and wishes.

I would live quite happily never speaking to him again but will do the necessary. We've been separated a long time and for a while things were reasonably amicable. Not so much now.

Texts and phone calls mainly - also at pick up and drop off, we also see each other socially on occasion as we have friends in common.

But we get on reasonably well (now!).

The only reason I can think of that he is against using e-mail is that it was my suggestion and not his.

Why is he against emails?

We email if necessary. Text only if urgent. Never talk face to face. We used to talk in the early days of the separation, but I've found it much less painful if I don't have to look at him. A book is really old fashioned.