To See my young children on Mother's Day?

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I am recently divorced from my ex husband and we share custody of our children but he has them on the weekend of Mother's Day. He wants to take the children to his parent's house that weekend to celebrate with his mother in another city. AIBU to think that I should see my children that day or should I suck it up and celebrate another weekend with them? I would let him see the kids for Father's Day but that conveniently lands on his weekend too so there's no bargaining power.

How do you get on with your ex MIL? Can you go to her house and join in the celebrations? That way your children get to be with you and their gran on that day.

How old are they?
What I mean is, do they know it's Mother's Day?

My DD gets excited about Mother's Day and would miss me I think.
It might show kindness to them, more than to you, for him to let you swap weekends.

My DS always brought home Mothers' Day cards from primary school that they made there. If the children are at school, or even nursery, they will proabably be aware of it. And confused if they don't spend it with their mother .

It's only a day. We're celebrating it a week late this year as my mum is away. last year we celebrated it on the Saturday, as it was cheaper and less busy to go out to eat.
Has he actually said no you can't see them, or are you anticipating he will say this?

Whatever the normal arrangements DH and I alter so DSD is with her Mother on key dates like Mothers Day and her Mum's birthday (and get the same courtesy in return).

Personally on MD I think your feelings top trump him taking the kids to his mum - however you should expect to do the same on Father's Day.

Maybe ask him how he would feel about you and your child spending Father's Day with your Dad rather than him seeing his kid....

As you say he would want to see them on Fathers Day whenever it fell, he should show you the same courtesy. He can go and see his mother by himself. I would put my foot down on this issue if it's going to upset you. Yes, we all know it's just a day made up to sell cards and you could have it on any day you like, but then we don't need to celebrate birthdays either, we still do.

id be cross at him being so selfish.

he sees his mum on mothers day your kids see theirs.

hope u resolve it

YANBU, it's Mother's Day you are the DC's mother. Ask him to swap weekends.