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AIBU?

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To ask dh not to renew his football season ticket

18 replies

Basilbrushestail · 27/02/2015 00:03

As he is refusing to work overtime and it costs all the family leisure money.

We both work, but I don't get any money for fun stuff as his tickets plus travel, pints, programmes and food use up all our spare money.

I'm happy for him to go to matches but not at the cost that I've not been able to take the kids out for the last 2 school holidays.

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Floralnomad · 27/02/2015 00:07

I wouldn't be asking ,I would be telling him . YANBU .

lucidlady · 27/02/2015 00:12

YANBU. what a selfish git he is.

AlpacaMyBags · 27/02/2015 00:13

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MrsTerryPratchett · 27/02/2015 00:15

Why does he think this is OK?

RatMort · 27/02/2015 00:16

Of course YANBU. Mind you, i would think it was a criminal waste of time and money even if he were working serious overtime. Presumably you are looking after the children while he's screaming at a bunch of men kicking a ball and then discussing the details in the pub?

lertgush · 27/02/2015 00:50

No no no - buy one for him and one for each of the children.

Then sit at home in peace every Saturday.

CatthiefKeith · 27/02/2015 00:55

Yanbu.

I had a premiership season ticket for 20+ years before dd came along. It's not just the price of the season ticket, it's the fares, the pie at half time, a couple of pints bovrils.

It just wasn't sustainable once I became a parent. I couldn't even name the squad these days.

Family is more important than football IMO.

scurryfunge · 27/02/2015 01:05

Have you ever discussed this with him? A compromise needs to be met. Seems very unfair if all family finances are eaten up with his hobby.

WildFlowersAttractBees · 27/02/2015 01:20

Ofcourse YANBU. The money has to be used for the entire family, not just your H. Perhaps overtime money could be used if he did some!!!

Blondiemama · 27/02/2015 04:01

This is not on. My husband and I both have season tickets (for different clubs) but we save for it out of our individual 'spends' so that it doesn't affect our family budget. DH supports a premier league club and his is double the cost of mine and he has decided he cant justify paying that for next season so won't be renewing- his choice, his money. If your DH does not fund it himself, no ticket. It's not fair to stop you and the children having time for fun too. If he is prepared to work the overtime, do extra jobs etc to pay for it then I think that's fair enough but otherwise no.

DeliciousMonster · 27/02/2015 07:02

If he cant afford it, then he cant afford it.

fairylightsbackintheloft · 27/02/2015 07:05

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Idontseeanysontarans · 27/02/2015 07:35

YANBU, DH and DS stopped theirs when money became tight and their team went up to the Premier League - there was no justification for spending that much money to watch them getting battered twice a week. even though their team made the tickets as cheap as possible.
If you don't mind him going occasionally but just want a fairer split of the 'fun' money then suggest a part season ticket that covers maybe 3 or 4 matches, I think a lot of clubs do these now.

BathtimeFunkster · 27/02/2015 07:42

You are working to pay for this prick to spend all family leisure money on himself?

No fucking way.

I'd be explaining to him how much his outgoings would increase if he lived elsewhere and how his access arrangements woukdn't be made around a football team.

TwoOddSocks · 27/02/2015 08:15

I can't believe he's even considering it. YANBU.

arethereanyleftatall · 27/02/2015 08:19

Is there more to this story?
The op is simply written and us obvo going to result in yanbu's. But are you leaving out some details?

Madamecastafiore · 27/02/2015 08:19

DH went to home and away matches before DC2 was born, money wasn't really the issue but the time away from us at weekends, especially away games which meant hours travelling, was just not on. I told him I felt like a bloody single parent at the weekends and he was being selfish prioritising fucking Arsenal every weekend over us (especially since their dip in form coincided with DSs birth).

If it had meant we (his family) missed out on things so he could go watch some men (over paid pricks) kick a ball around I would have put my foot down a whole lot sooner.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 27/02/2015 08:26

This is the game with the round ball, right?

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