To think an adult man should be able to choose how he decides to grow his facial hair?

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My BIL (DH's younger brother) constantly gets a hard time from his Mum and Dad (my PIL) about the fact that he has a beard. FIL (his Dad) absolutely hates it and MIL is always berating him, saying things like "Why can't you just shave it off when you're coming home, you know your Dad hates it." BIL gets really pissed off and says that it's his personal choice how he grows his facial hair and they don't comment on anyone else's hair style or clothing. I totally agree and think it is really out of order of PIL's to keep bringing this up. He is an adult and should be free to do whatever he wants. But DH agrees with his parents and thinks that it's not much to ask and he should just have a shave if it pleases his Dad. But why should he???

Hipsters commandeered the beard from otherwise perfectly pleasant men (and women!) who were just too lazy to shave. Now they carry around performance art pieces on their faces with waxed moustaches and self-consciously 'scruffy' looks all planned, perfected and executed with aching self-awareness that makes me feel incredibly awkward.

YANBU! It's like they still think of him as a child and undermining his decisions. I think some of the older generation were always clean shaven, it was just something they did and any bristles showing were scruffy.. But times change and we can look how we want now, and care less what others think. Even if they think it they shouldn't say it!

I hate beards and especially beard rash, my dh lets his grow for Movember and I refuse to snog him until he shaves it. My Dad always had a beard so it feels like kissing him
However YANBU as its his Mum and Dad telling him to shave rather than a scaly red-faced partner/wife.

Father Christmas has a beard

P.s after saying that I prefer my DH shaven and do tell him this, but that's different..

Blimey, those parents need to get a grip!

I think your DBil should start dyeing his beard a different bright colour every time he visits for a few months or so. Then, when he stops dyeing it, your PILs will be so relieved that it's a 'normal' colour again they'll shut up about it

I fear your DH is under his parents' thumb a little if he can't see how ridiculous they're being. Sorry.

Yanbu.
A friend of mine once broke up with her boyfriend for attempting to grow a beard. she stormed out of his house after a row about it. I was speechless when she told me.

My OH has to get permission from the Mavy to grow a beard.

If it doesn't hold a comb after 28 days he has to shave it off

Navy

Not if he's married to me. I'd divorce my dh if he grew a beard (or a moustache - AAAAGH).

Yes I am that shallow and yes I mean it. Fortunately he'd never do it because he hates the idea too. Phew.

Good grief, it's not even as if a beard is all that radical a styling choice. The fact that your DH thinks is brother should appease his parents makes me think they must be pretty controlling.

To tell the truth, I never used to go in for beards, but DH grew one and looks pretty hot with it. And.... David Mitchell. Sigh.

Making sweeping generalizations about what facial hair denotes in terms of of your character, "hipster", "too" etc is more than ridiculous.

And I agree, he should be allowed to have the facial hair of his own choosing.

"tool"

DH grew a beard, I hated it and refused to kiss him (brought me out in a rash) he shaved it. Thank god

I thought I hated my husband's moustache and pestered for years for him to shave it off.

Eventually, just to please me, he did and I bloody hated it. He looked ridiculous. His face does not suit not having a tache.

Of course, having pestered for so long, I couldn't say anything so I had months of no tache before he decided to grow it again.

I was so happy.

I had the same problem with my MIL - a well-intentioned but infuriating woman.

I've known my beard longer than I've known you and I'm keeping it; and the subject is now closed.

And she knew I meant it.

Your PIL are idiots and so is your DH for agreeing with them. If they keep nagging at BIL, then he's going to visit less and less - would that make them happy? In fact, I'd probably suggest it to BIL.

I love DH's beard. Of course people with facial hair should do what they like. But men without beards look a little but eunuchy to me.

I hate facial hair and hate kissing dh with stubble as it irritates my face. I ask him to shave at least every 2 days or no kissing or sex ..... his choice.

I'm from a beardy family (just the men though), so have no issue with beards. I like the look of DH with stubble, it gives him a sort of just-got-out-of-bed, rumpled look which I like. Actually kissing him when he's stubbly is less pleasant...

Also, I agree with ouryve about David Mitchell; he looks so much better with a beard!

The beard fashion. must be on the wane now though surely?
I recently saw a little film crew and of the 7 of them only one didn't have a beard. They looked comical - like a parody of hipsters.

And an adult woman should be able to have her hair how she likes. It doesn't stop my DM telling me it looks shit!

I shaved mine off once (had it since before I met DW). She screamed and refused to talk to me until it grew back. Tell your BIL to keep it. If FIL hates it that much he can pay for a barber to shave it every day.

My DS swings between bearded and cleanish shaven.

He has pretty vigorous bear growth and, rather alarmingly, can grow a respectable beard in quite a short time span (about 2 minutes).

He also does Number 2 shaves on his head now and again.

But he is 30 years old so why on Earth would I tell him what to do?

Oh, and he is not a tool.

There are many things about my children that I dont share on here

... but I most definitely won't let anyone call my son a tool because he has a beard.