Putting things away

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Who is BU here, me or DP? He has a habit of leaving things out. For example twice today he took things out from a box under our bed, but didn't put the box back. When he changes DD's nappy he sometimes leaves the cotton wool he's used to clean her on top of the nappy bin instead of putting it in, or leaves the lid off the nappy bin when he's put the nappy in there. This drives me crazy as it only takes a couple of seconds to put a box away or put the lid on the bin. He says he gets distracted and thinks I am being petty when I point out that he's done these things and get annoyed with him. AIBU?

YANBU. That drives me crackers. My DH has a tendency to leave empty packets of rubbish all over the kitchen when there is a perfectly good bin right next to him. And socks, why can't he put his socks in the laundry basket?!

It's the only thing my lovely DH does that annoys me.

YANBU. My DH does this so often that I have begun to think he has a mental condition. Because no one can be that lazy. He is very easily distracted. Most recently we came back from a holiday to find his car window had been left open for 2 weeks because he opened it and then couldn't be bothered to close it again.

My DH does this. Mostly bottles/jars of sauces from kitchen cupboards that he uses then leaves out on the counter. Also toothpaste which he lies back down on the side of the sink rather than popping back in the cup thing with the toothbrushes, WHY!? It's right there!

The other day he used a pritt stick from the cupboard under the stairs to stick down an envelope, then stood the glue next to the TV. Every time I looked at the TV I was thinking "is he going to put the away..." until eventually two days later I had to say "please will you put that pritt stick away?"

Does he just not see it?! I don't think he is waiting for me to do it for him because I rarely do, although I often seem to ask him to do it and then I feel like a bit of a nag! I am not particularly clean and tidy myself but little jobs like popping something back in the cupboard after you've used it just seem to make sense!!

Oh dirty plate straight into the dishwasher rather that on the counter/in the sink is another one!!

My Dh once couldn't find his house / car keys. He had left them in the front door the night before - on a busy street in Los Angeles, with the porch light on. (We could have lost the car and worst case scenario - the children!)

He leaves every pair of shoes in random places, and his feet are big so I am always falling over them.

He leaves wet towels on the bed, my side of the bed, never hangs them up in the bathroom to dry.

He leaves his breakfast plates on the table (most maddening of all).

But I am so used to it all now, the fight has gone out of me.

I am the distracted one in this house - I can finish a cup of tea in the lounge, put the empty mug on the side then walk out to the kitchen without it, clean clothes will be put on top of the drawers and it could be days before they make the journey to the right drawer and if I have to get a drink during the night I will often walk into the kitchen on the morning to find cupboard doors left open.
I'm far from lazy and I've tried to improve but I just seem to be so consumed with the next thing to think about that the last thing flies out my head. I can see that this 'dismissing' the last thing affects other tasks - I almost got run over once because I walked out before a car has passed me: I'd seen the car and knew that there was space AFTER it but it's like my brain translated that as "car seen therefore 'dealt with' so cross now"! Really hard to explain but it's the way my mind works ALL the time not just regarding dirty socks!

YANBU though!

My partner sweeps the floor but leaves the pile in the middle of the floor instead of getting the shovel. We have a dog, who later gets shouted at (by dp, not me!) for trekking it back through the house.

Wet towels get draped on the back of dining room chairs, dressing gown left draped on sofa, butter, milk etc left on side after use.

It is small things but I find it very irritating and tbh, insulting, when as currently the sahp, it is my role to clean the house. Cleaning I don't mind, but tidying after another adult, I do.

YANBU. My (D)H does it too and it drives me mad. He always tells me that I put too much pressure on by asking him and the DC to clear up after they have finished with things, and that makes me more mad as if I don't nag remind him and the DC to clear up behind themselves it is me with "too much pressure" as I have to clear up behind five people instead of just two (myself and my toddler, who to be fair given her age is the best at clearing up out of any of them!!).

Linked to this I hate the habit of things in the car eg a bowl/plate if someone has been out with a snack, bags of sports kit or coats and shoes. Several times he has been at work and received an irate phone call that wellies or a yoga mat that I need for one of the DC is in his car. My philosophy is if you just clear up behind yourself you save a lot of effort in looking at and dealing with a lot more mess at the end of the day (mind you if he had his way we would just live in a complete mess all the time but I have seen people do this and it ends up like an episode of Britain's Biggest Hoarders given enough time..., not for me I'm afraid!)

YANBU. Drives me nuts too. DH either leaves things out or else he 'tidies' them away into the nearest drawer/cupboard so no-one can find them. Now I have a teen that does this too.

Haha. I was about to come on and say YANBU and rant about my dad (who rinses and stacks the plates but doesn't put them in the dishwasher ) but then read fizzycola's post ... I have left my keys in the door on more than one occasion. It used to be after getting home after a night on the lash, but more recently I did it because I was pulling the pram in and just forgot. Our front door is about 10 feet from the footpath and the car parked in the driveway about 5 steps from the front door.

Yanbu. DH does this with everything. Clothes left where he takes them off, milk left on the side, he doesn't even close cupboards or drawers if he opens them. He just doesn't notice - he will step over things instead of picking them up. He helps tidy up after dinner, we do it together and helps out a lot but he doesn't realise how much easier it would be if he just put things away or closed the cupboard doors!

Yes it's infuriating. DH likes things to have a little rest on route to the bin, so stuff almost gets thrown away but doesn't. My argument is that it takes as much energy to nearly put it in the bin as to actually put it in the bin. His comeback is that's why he's so thin because he uses extra energy his way, so perhaps I should try it too! (I'm not overweight at all, but he is stick thin without trying and I'm jealous!)

Cupboard doors half open, wet towels everywhere. I blame his parents actually, and trying not to let my children get away with it.

Sorry meant I'm trying to instill good housekeeping in my children, especially the male one.

Me too GoodGriefCharlieBrown.

This is my life

This thread is well timed for me.

When I used the bathroom last night and saw DH's socks and underwear yet again placed on the lid of the laundry basket, I vowed that, in future, I won't say a word. I will simply move them to his pillow every morning. Saying it is ineffective so I will be working on the principle that actions speak louder than words.

I began putting the wet towel that OH left on the dressing table stool on his pillow. He didn't comment but after the second time he hangs it up after use.

I'm trying to think of a way to make him close cupboard doors and put things back in the fridge... Instead of next to the fridge!

I stumbled across this thread after picking yesterday's pants off the bathroom floor and discovering a broken butter knife in the fridge! My OH doesn't put things away and it drives me crazy. YADNBU!!!

I feel a lot better reading about everyone else's other halves. Makes mine look normal!