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To tell a colleague to STFU?

42 replies

ManOfSpiel · 25/02/2015 20:37

I've just been relocated to another part of the office and am now sat in a bay with a young lad. At first he seemed ok but is one of those nosey types who, in conversation, has asked me about my house, cars etc etc. I'm in no way rich but am of the age now (40's) where I have only just been able to buy a few nice things for myself.

I don't know what's up with this lad but now he has a bit of info on me he continuously drops my possessions into any conversation in a snipy/jokey way. It's like he has a huge chip or some inferiority complex and is doing his utmost to make me feel bad about it.

For instance he'll point out his old scuffed shoes and then say, "well you don't have that problem with your xyz brand of shoes do you", so bloody loud that the rest of the office can hear. Or he'll tell me about having to repair his car but then follow it up with, "but of course you don't worry about repairs with your brand new xyz".

He was bloody nosey enough to ask me about my stuff and now he's making some huge thing about it. If I knew what he was like then I'd have lied.

Would I be unreasonable to tell him to fuck off next time he says something? He never acts like this about anyone else in the office and it's really wearing thin.

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ManOfSpiel · 26/02/2015 22:19

Lol at 'boy crush' Grin

I'm flattered by the suggestion to be honest. It's nice to be attractive to anyone, male or female, but in reality I think he's just an annoying little $#&% who needs his gonads stapling.

Oh god I'm now obsessed with inflicting pain with office implements. I genuinely didn't think mumsnet would do that to me.

And to think another poster suggested that mumsnet was going to the dogs Wink

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TinLizzie · 26/02/2015 22:28

ManOfSpiel in that case, just tell him to STFU. I find men tend to do this as a matter of course. Or is that just to me? Grin

Clobbered · 26/02/2015 22:33

Inflicting pain with office implements… think of the damage you could do with one of those staple remover thingies!

NollaigShona · 26/02/2015 22:34

Oh ok, not a crush then.
Perhaps he is doing this to undermine you and it is all part of his master plan for world domination.
Definitely staple his bits. Staple them good and hard. Then staple them again.

slugseatlettuce · 26/02/2015 22:41

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ManOfSpiel · 26/02/2015 22:43

Well I hope not TinLizzie Shock

It's not nice to tell anyone to STFU but this guy deserves it. I'm sure you don't.

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ManOfSpiel · 26/02/2015 22:46

slugs

Did I mention that I'm an engineer. Weird colleagues come with the territory I'm afraid.

I would say that I'm pretty normal but this guy is a white version of Moss from the IT Crowd!

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nickelbarapasaurus · 26/02/2015 22:58

I like Imperial's idea.

I know it shouldn't matter how long it's taken you to save up for your stuff, nor is it any of his business how you got it, but young people starting out in life do look at older people and what they've acquired and feel a pang of "i wish i could afford that".
It really is hard being young and having no money.
(It's harder being nearly 40 and having even less but hey!)

cinders456 · 26/02/2015 23:08

He's jealous of your wife. Think Sebastian and the PM in Little Britain!

TheSkiingGardener · 27/02/2015 06:54

You could have some fun with him I suppose. Bring in some flashy car brochures and when he starts drooling just tell him your wife is getting a new car and she's given you the brochures so that you can pick the colour. Or get everyone in the office to claim they get the engineers discount and one of the shops he seems jealous of, but that he's not to worry, when he's senior enough he'll get it too.

Or re-engineer his testicles.

however · 27/02/2015 06:57

"Well, if you concentrate on your work, instead of me, one day you'll have enough money to buy those things too."

WipsGlitter · 27/02/2015 07:02

Someone (finance manager) once said something to me about my wages (more than her) and how o didn't need to worry. I told she couldn't say that as she had no idea what I was paying for - I might have had a parent in a care home for example. She didn't mention it again. Just call him on it.

vinegarandbrownpaper · 27/02/2015 07:13

Bring in some value baked beans for him and ask him lots of questions about being poor? Like ' do all poor people drink as much as you?' 'why are people with your background so bad at managing money' or 'well we do get paid according to ability, you must be reallly shit!

OnIlkelyMoorBahtat · 27/02/2015 11:00

"Well, if you concentrate on your work, instead of me, one day you'll have enough money to buy those things too."

Perfect!

NollaigShona · 27/02/2015 12:11

I met an engineer once. He said it was hard not being able to go around with a hammer looking to build stuff.
So, give him a hammer or a wrench or some other engineery tools and distract him from your stuff. (Keep the stapler though)

SweetsForMySweet · 27/02/2015 12:24

Tell him that if he works really hard like you do instead of whinging all the time, that when he is a little older, he will be able to afford things too.

and in the mean time tell him to stfu Grin

Or for mn's entertainment, you could ask him to post in AIBU and let him see how he gets on Wink

BreakingDad77 · 27/02/2015 12:24

Needs more 'hey son/nipper work hard enough and one day"

though as poster above could be a man crush 'hate the thing you love' type thing.

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