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Forgot it was toddlers birthday

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jemstipp · 25/02/2015 16:58

DH agreed to help bil all day and completely forgot it was dd2s 3rd birthday. I was miffed. He did it before on dd1s 4th birthday too. We aren't having a party or anything but I am a little annoyed that he didn't even stop to think before jumping to do it Angry

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whattodoowiththeleftoverturkey · 25/02/2015 17:00

I guess it depends on whether you had family plans to celebrate DDs birthday. Will he see her at any point on her birthday?

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jemstipp · 25/02/2015 17:02

He's working in the morning and then I have no idea what time he'll get finished, put it this way, it'll be dark when he comes home.

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MrsRaegan · 25/02/2015 17:02

YANBU. He should at least acknowledge that it's his daughers birthday.

TurnOverTheTv · 25/02/2015 17:02

That's pretty shit.

FenellaFellorick · 25/02/2015 17:03

What did he say when you asked him what he was planning to do for his child's birthday?

ChipDip · 25/02/2015 17:05

Yanbu did he see her at all today? What parent forgets their child's birthday especially when they are little.

whattodoowiththeleftoverturkey · 25/02/2015 17:05

That is crap. Have you spoken about it? Has he cancelled his arrangement with his brother of agreed to come home for family tea and cake?

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jemstipp · 25/02/2015 17:05

Not much really. Im annoyed because I buy the card, the pressie etc all he has to do is be around. Maybe she won't care as she's so young but I kinda do

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jemstipp · 25/02/2015 17:07

It's her birthday Saturday or rather the date we use, she's a leap baby. He said he eould cancel but in that huffy way, you know, I'll be the bigger person if I have to.

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Fairenuff · 25/02/2015 17:09

Poor little thing having a dad who can't be bothered to remember or acknowledge her birthday. That so sad. I take it no-one bothers with his?

RandomNPC · 25/02/2015 17:10

What kind of self obsessed idiot doesn't remember his child's birthday?

Leeds2 · 25/02/2015 17:10

Could you celebrate on Sunday instead?

WilsonWilsonWoman · 25/02/2015 17:12

Don't you discuss your children's birthday together in advance and decide what you will be doing? Hmm

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jemstipp · 25/02/2015 17:13

He's quite good usually but I think it's because it happened before already that it's getting on my tits. I don't care about mine and he doesn't care about his birthday but for kids it's a big deal and they are only small once.

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crazylady12 · 25/02/2015 17:14

God we couldn't forget don't you tell your kids it's there birthday mine don't stop going on about it especially at 3 and 4

Shockers · 25/02/2015 17:14

Are birthdays not discussed in advance? You know, stuff like what present, are we throwing a party for her?

crazylady12 · 25/02/2015 17:15

One word twat

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jemstipp · 25/02/2015 17:16

I thinl he just thinks that as we aren't having anyone over, except for my parents who are staying the weekend because it's her birthday, that it doesn't matter. And he gets on great with my parents so it's mot to avoid them. It's more that he was delightedto be going laying a ditch. Odd, I know

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jemstipp · 25/02/2015 17:17

He knew her birthday was coming yes but says he thought it was tomorrow

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GotToBeInItToWinIt · 25/02/2015 17:20

Seems strange that you haven't discussed it in more detail beforehand, e.g 'what shall we do on Saturday for DD's birthday?' Or 'my parents are coming on Saturday as it's DD's birthday'. However YANBU, I wouldn't be impressed if DH forgot.

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jemstipp · 25/02/2015 17:22

Thanks everyone. Thought I was maybe being hard on him. You know how they can get a bit surprised by your reaction to what they can deem as not a big deal really.

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Only1scoop · 25/02/2015 17:22

Yanbu....

No effort on his part at all then.

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jemstipp · 25/02/2015 17:25

We said wouldn't have a party as she's not in playschool and hasn't many cousins. Said we'd make a big noise next year for her first official birthday. I just didn't think that mean "don't bother your arse acknowledging it this year".

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CrystalCove · 25/02/2015 17:30

Come on it doesn't matter if nothing was arranged or not, it's still your own child's birthday, what idiot forgets that!

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