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to think i need to sort myself out !!!

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ghostspirit · 24/02/2015 22:30

i have got into a bad sleep pattern. im 31 weeks pregnant. work part time. time i have been at work and got home im in alot of pain so i have been getting home sorting food for the kids. have my bath and sleep by 5.30. my 4 year old is doing the same. son then we are waking up about 9pm and going to sleep about 3am and awake at 6am. i had a chat to myself tonight about it. but then i turned round and 4 year old was asleep and it felt so peaceful.... that i fell sleep again :/

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Cooki3Monst3r · 25/02/2015 19:14

So your 4 yr old is getting 6 1/2hrs sleep a night?!

Is he/she at school? Napping during the day?

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ghostspirit · 25/02/2015 19:20

no shes getting 3.5 hours and then 4 hours. sorry forgot im up at 6am shes up at 7.... so shes get 7.5 not much though for a 4 year old :/ but i have not slept this evening. she just fell asleep about 6.45 so only a little earlyer than what would be normal. so hopefully might be a better/normal sleep tonight. she would normally go to sleep 7-7.30 then up at 7am for school.

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Cooki3Monst3r · 25/02/2015 19:28

Well, yes, you're right that's not much at all for a 4 yo. Has this just been a temporary blip? She must be exhausted.

My 4.11 yo has lights out at 6:55pm and will usually wake about 6:30. I think at that age 11.5/12 hrs is what's expected.

Get yourself to bed at 9pm then hopefully you'll get a good nights sleep and not be so knackered tomorrow evening.

Do you start your mat leave soon? Then you have afternoon naps.

Quitelikely · 25/02/2015 19:33

Your 4 year old goes to sleep at 5.30pm then gets up at 9pm and stays up until 3 in the morning?

If the above is correct and your son doesn't have a medical condition then you are being quite irresponsible IMO.

You shouldn't be going to sleep at 5.30 with a 4 year old to look after!

Contact your GP explain the pattern and take it from there.

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ghostspirit · 25/02/2015 19:33

she does not seem exhausted but kids that age dont show it just keep going then conk out. yeah it is a blip not normally like this.

yes i start maternity at easter so just end of march then im finished. wont be so tired as will have more hours in the day to do what i need to do and can do it in more of a relaxed manner...

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GotToBeInItToWinIt · 25/02/2015 19:34

That's not much sleep for either of you. What are you both doing between 9pm and 3am? You definitely need to get into a better sleeping pattern, for both of yours sake.

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ghostspirit · 25/02/2015 19:37

quite its because im pregnant and at work. so very tired when i get home. me and daughter fell asleep after our baths. which was about 5.30pm and we both woke up about 9pm which means daughter did not want to sleep. we were both wide awake because of the few hours sleep we had. but yeah the hours and pattern are not good but hoping as i have stayed awake and daughter has fell asleep a bit later it might be ok :/

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ghostspirit · 25/02/2015 19:42

i know inittowinit it seems like alot till people pointed it out :/

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GotToBeInItToWinIt · 25/02/2015 19:46

Push your DD's bedtime back gradually until it's back at her normal time. If she wakes up, keep everything dark and quiet and keep telling her it's sleep time. It might take a while for her to get back into a proper pattern. She's got some sleep to catch up on.

Go to bed at 9pm yourself tonight. If you wake up don't switch the TV on or do anything that will make your body think it's 'awake' time. Read a book or do something else that makes you feel sleepy. You will feel a hell of a lot better in a normal sleep pattern.

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ghostspirit · 25/02/2015 19:56

yes will defo do that. seems mad that a week ago i could just put her to bed 7-7.30 lights of door shut. and not hear anything till about 7am. im sure it will be ok soon

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QTPie · 25/02/2015 19:58

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iwouldgoouttonight · 25/02/2015 20:00

Just read your other thread about your 17 year old and her boyfriend staying at yours and not helping. Not surprised your exhausted. Couldn't they look after your 4yr old while you have a nap after work?

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ghostspirit · 25/02/2015 20:16

iwould i dont want to sleep after work to be honest because i end up with the bad sleep pattern as well. it did not actually put dd to sleep with me she just fell sleep. i think it will correct its self over the next day or so anyway. i would not ask them anyway that just be more stress. all i would hear is mum mum tell her mum bla bla

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GotToBeInItToWinIt · 25/02/2015 20:30

Good luck OP, not long now until maternity leave and hopefully you can have a bit of rest!

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ghostspirit · 25/02/2015 20:55

thank you :)

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ghostspirit · 26/02/2015 08:52

i think its sorted-ish :) she woke up at 9.30 she had been sleep on sofa took her up to bed lights of. then i hear the hyper tone in her voice that sounds like shes going to be bouncing round the room. but she said she was hungry and i thought here we go shes going to eat and then be on one. anyway gave her something to eat. and 10 mins later she asked for light back of and went back to sleep. so was asleep from when she fell sleep on sofa till 9.30 then again from 10pm till 7am when i woke her. so i recon tonight will be quite normal-ish

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