Another wedding thread!
I have been asked to be chief bridesmaid for my best friend. Her and her husband to be have decided they want us all to stay for 4 days in a big manor house for the wedding, which will be great fun. However the costs are adding up!
Me and my partner are having to contribute £300 towards renting the manor, which I feel shouldn't be at the expense of the guests. We also are having to drive 5 hours to get there, which is just an inconvenience, plus as two self employed people we are having 4/5 days unpaid leave.
The stag/hen do are costing around £100-150 apiece, we then have to buy a present, I am expected to pay for my bridesmaid shoes (a specific style chosen by the bride), pay for my jewellery (again bride has hinted at preferred choice), and on top of all that she has just told me I need to pay for my own hair and makeup on the day 
I don't know whether I am being unreasonable thinking that this is too much! Am I basically paying for their wedding or is this the done thing?
It also doesn't help that they are going on the honeymoon of a lifetime which they like to mention at every oppurtunity, so money isn't exactly tight for them!