Feeling Brave- wedding payment thread!

[grumpasaur]

Hello all! My DH was "asked" to be best man for his friend from schools second weddings. DH was also best man at the first wedding.

Anyway we have just received a message from groom about the specific cravatte, blazer, shirt, trousers, and shoes we will be expected to order ASAP from ASOS.

The total will be about £175.

Not only are we already skint, but this wedding is already going to cost us significantly in terms of stag, hen, travel, present, etc.

I told DH he should say we can't afford that cost, but he doesn't want to rock the boat.

AIBu to think it's fucking ridiculous that a) we have been told to pay and b) DH is too fucking chicken to refuse???

Why is your DH is worried about declining? If the groom is a genuine friend then he will understand and he would actually want your DH to tell him that he can't afford it.

If the groom doesn't care whether your DH can afford it then why would your DH pander to him?

this is tough, how long do you have until the wedding? Sympathy to you but I guess this is a good friend as he will have been best man at both weddings.

Can't he just hire it. Seems daft to have to buy it.

Is there any way of deliberately misunderstanding? Eg send a message saying "no worries mate, I'll get those delivered to work. Shall I send you my bank details for you to pay me back or do you want to just send me a cheque?".

Oh guys I am so sorry! Somehow I started two of the same threads- have no idea how that happened but it certainly has to do with the fact that I am technologically inept.

Jump over to the other thread and you will get your answers!! Short story's definitely no misunderstanding, and the groom and DH aren't best mates (well- the groom isn't DHs best mate but feels that DH is his best mate, if you see what I mean), and DH probably wouldn't even be friends with him if they hadn't known each other since primary school.

Unfortunately DH is a bit of a wiener when it comes to doing anything which could upset anyone... Very irritating.

Anyway- jump over to other thread!