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AIBU?

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To be annoyed by this lateness?

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ShadowSpiral · 24/02/2015 12:05

Arranged to meet friend and her ds at local soft play place today at 10 am.

Friend turned up at 11:45am. No texts, calls , apology or explanation for lateness (I texted her after we'd been here about 30 mins).

By the time she got here we were having lunch in the seating right next to the toddler soft play.

She said hello briefly and that she was going to the outside stuff because her ds wanted to go outside and we should find her when we'd finished eating.

AIbu to be annoyed? I feel like she's been a bit rude.

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Molotov · 24/02/2015 12:12

I would have been very annoyed and probably would have left at 11am.

I wouldn't arrange or go on another meet-up with her.

CrystalCove · 24/02/2015 12:14

What did she say when you pointed out you thought the time arranged to meet was 10am?

NynaevesSister · 24/02/2015 12:14

A bit rude?! A bloody whole heap of rude if you ask me.

Just to be clear, you made it a specific meet up kind of date? It couldn't have come across as a general we are going to the soft play at 10am are you going tomorrow? Oh you are? That's great be good to have company, kind of thing?

Oldraver · 24/02/2015 12:18

Do you value her friendship or can you do without her ?

It is rude of her to not even say sorry for being that late. If I couldn't be arsed with her I would just finish lunch and carry on with what you wanted to do...which by now, I would assume, would be making your escape out of soft play.. I would just go and not feel the need to explain to her

But if you want to keep the piece smile ans dance to her tune

Oldraver · 24/02/2015 12:19

PEACE...........

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ShadowSpiral · 24/02/2015 12:20

We spoke on Sunday and we confirmed the meeting time then.

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LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 24/02/2015 12:25

More than a bit rude. Turning up almost 2 hours late without letting you know is disrespectful.

ImperialBlether · 24/02/2015 12:26

Didn't you say, "How come you're so late?"?

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ShadowSpiral · 24/02/2015 13:15

Apparently she "found it difficult to leave the house today".

No apology even after I said I'd been here at the agreed time.

I know we all have days where everything takes longer than it should, but I thnk it's polite to let people know if you're running late.

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MrsTedCrilly · 24/02/2015 13:23

YANBU. Unless it was a general "going to soft play Monday, might see you there" but doesn't sound like that. Most people would text, apologise when they show up and say why.. Maybe she thought it wasn't rude as you were somewhere that you'd be preoccupied anyway, rather than waiting at a cafe etc.

neolara · 24/02/2015 13:24

I think that would be the last time I made an arrangement with her.

googoodolly · 24/02/2015 13:25

A bit rude?! That's extremely rude. She should have rung you and told you so you could make new plans if necessary.

I can't stand lateness though, gives me the rage!

DeliciousMonster · 24/02/2015 13:41

Did you go running to find her or did you eat and then just leave?

linalool · 24/02/2015 13:48

Can't stand people who turn up late and don't even have the decency to text to let you know or even pretend to have an excuse. If you do arrange to meet again and she does the same just leave. People like this never change.

Molotov · 24/02/2015 14:05

I have problems getting out of the house on time, too. But, I call or text the person I'm planning to meet if I'm going to be more than 10 mins late. I think that's the right thing to do.

supermariossister · 24/02/2015 14:36

that'd be the last time I arranged a day out with her. I hate being left waiting around it really annoys me especially to not explain or apologise.

CallMeExhausted · 24/02/2015 15:05

Punctuality is a bailey wick of mine... I view it as respect. If you don't care enough to observe the plans you have agreed to, you don't care about the person you made those plans with. I understand that things happen - but with modern communication, there is no excuse for not acknowledging that you are delayed and explaining why/when you will arrive.

YANBU, and she is horrendously rude. Time to revisit your social circle, perhaps?

ChipDip · 24/02/2015 15:20

Yanbu very rude! She was almost 2 hours late.

OnlyLovers · 24/02/2015 15:20

TBF maybe she had the mother of all mornings getting her child out of the house?

Having said that, a quick text and then an apology when she arrived would have been nice.

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ShadowSpiral · 24/02/2015 16:29

No, I didn't go running to find her.

We finished our food, and then we stayed a bit longer (inside) because DC wanted to play some more on the soft play.

I spoke to her when she came back inside with her DS. She didn't seem to see any reason why she should have apologised or explained her lateness, which I think is more aggravating than the lateness itself.

Anyway, DC had a great time rampaging around the soft play area, so at least they had a good outing!

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