To think that I get treated with less respect than others do by my friends?

[Bubblybubbles]

I'm just fed up with it really. Perhaps I'm too "nice"?

One friend is always grumpy when she sees me, despite being all smiles and sweetness around other people. I saw her on the school run this morning and she was smiling away and saying hello to other people. She saw me and did a really grumpy hello as if she was having the worst day of her life. She will also only meet up with me if she suggests it. If I suggest anything then it's a no.

This also applies to various other friends; if I suggest anything to any of them then they can't possibly do it. They will only do things if it comes from them in the first place. Several don't even reply to my texts and will only reply to my replies to their initial text, if that makes sense.

I get cancelled on a lot. I get expected to make an effort driving here there and everywhere, yet they make effort for others. One friend always says she has no money and cannot afford to travel to my town to meet me therefore I drive to her town all the time. Yet this weekend she drove 50 miles to meet another friend of hers and put it on Facebook.

I am just fed up with people taking me for granted.

They are taking you for granted, but you need to ask yourself why you tolerate and accommodate them treating you as a convenience.

I'd have no friends if I made a stand

Your friendship is not as desirable as others - I'm not slagging you off, I've had this happen a couple of times to me

What you do is put very firm boundaries in place, don't drive to see people, don't put yourself out, casual hello then look away.

Don't give out loads of personal information either. You will soon find out who your real friends are, ive got about 4!

The others will just fade away. And there's nothing wrong with you, it's them.

What the others said. You say that if you made a stand, you'd have no friends left, but in fact, you'd be in exactly the same situation as now, you just wouldn't be calling people who don't appear to like or appreciate you 'friends'. And yes, why are you tolerating behaviour like this, while still regarding them as 'friends' while they seem to see you as semi-invisible?

You can always make new friends if the current crowd don't accept it when you demand normal respect.

Really, all of your friends are awful? I'm really not being mean, but have you looked at the common denominator in the situation?

I am having the same problem with my friends. It is rubbish isn't it OP.

I don't feel appreciated by them and I have started rethinking my friendships. However I find it hard to make friends. I am a single mum with a preteen so I don't have much free time to join groups and have hobbies.

Maybe you're too nice. Maybe you're not nice enough.

I have someone on my FB who bitches constantly about feeling "used" and appears to keep spreadsheets over who did what with whom.

It's not an attractive personality trait tbh.

Disclaimer- I've never met you and you might be the loveliest person in the world for all I know.

That's mean! Op is upset

Yes. You are too nice, and you are being taken for granted. Time to get out there and get some new friends.

Stop putting yourself out for them. Distance yoyrself and see what happens, then you will know who your friends are.