My friend invited my two DDs and I to hers for the evening. We'd planned to spend the night there and I was taking wine, sweets for my DDs and hers to share, crisps and a cake for pudding. She was cooking chilli for us and the DC had already had their tea.
She called me the day before and I told her I was popping to get wine on the way (she lives about 5 miles away) and she said great etc...we went on to discuss the dc arrangements with the idea they'd all eat before the meeting and then they could go to bed together with snacks and DVDs and my friend and I would eat late.
Then she said "Do yours eat croissants from X bakery?" I said yes and she said "Oh good then can you get a box of 12 and bring those too as mine love croissants and they can all have them for breakfast?"
I thought this quite rude! I'm on a tight budget which she knows...and why couldn't she just offer toast? The bakery she was expecting me to visit is expensive....I thought her wording odd....why would she make it sound as though she has already bought them in??
Thinking back she's often doing similar things....telling me to pick this or that up. And I'm always out of pocket. I don't like to seem rude so tend to just do it but this time I said "Oh no I don't think I'll have time or money for that. I could bring an extra loaf for toast if you need one."
She was miffed. Do people plan this type of thing out or is it just thoughtlessness?