About DP going to concert and staying over?

[annabanana30]

Dp wants to go to a concert to see his favourite singer. It's in a city about 30 miles away so he plans to go by train and stay over in a travelodge and have a drink before and after the concert. He doesn't have many friends and the ones he does have aren't into the singer, or wouldn't have the money to go. He did briefly ask if I wanted to go, but I'm not so into the singer and the tickets are very expensive, so I said I would stay behind and work and have a cosy night by myself watching tv that I want to watch instead of having to compromise! Happy all round!

I told my friend today of dp's plans and she's rather aghast that he'd ever want to go without me, and that her dp would never leave her out of such a thing. So, AIBU to not be bothered dp is going for a fun night without me?

"It's a shame he's going alone"

Why?

Yanbu. He did ask you anyway and you declined. This is, however, besides the point as of course it's normal to do things separately. DP and I have plenty of time apart as we have different hobbies. Hell, I even quite like it when he goes away on business now and again as I can starfish in the bed

I thought that, Agent. My DP bought us both Morrissey tickets without asking if I wanted to go, OP should think herself lucky.

I wouldn't have a problem with this at all

I just don't get these threads.

If you're happy with it, it doesn't matter what your friend thinks does it?

Or is it really you who has the problem and you're just trying to gauge other people's reactions?

Ha ha, Lettice - so did mine! But fortunately I'm away overnight with work on the date, so I have a legitimate excuse.

Glad I'm not BU! Quite looking forward to a night of peace! We regularly do things apart, he has weekends away with his dad and I with my mum. We miss each other and appreciate each other when we then see each other again!

Worraliberty, I don't quite see the point of your post. If you don't like my thread, then firstly, why bother looking, and secondly, why then bother posting? I find you rather negative and sometimes you come across as quite opinionated, but not in a good way.

Yanbu. My dh is in to miserable music (I am not assuming your oh is op), but I could think of nothing worse than going to see someone he likes just cos I am his oh. I would gladly let oh go to a gig and stay over to do something he wnjoyed as he would me. And tbh I like the odd night where dd is in bed and dh is out and I have free reign, a glass of wine and atching my guilty pleasures on tv :)

Sounds like a good plan to me. Enjoy!

She wouldn't like me then - I left DP to go on holiday for 3 weeks last year (terrible I know, but hey didn't affect us, we are still together and he was quite happy at home doing his hobbies)and we do plenty of things without each other. I love that we have our own interests, some of which are very different.

I signed up for a relationship not an extended version of me that can only do things with me.

I did this last year when Prince did his mini UK tour. Concert in Birmingham, stayed overnight in a hotel and home next day.

DH would have come as well but he was already away on his annual fishing holiday.