Ok, So I am probably being unreasonable here but thought I would put it to the Mumsnet masses! Recently got an email from a lady (whom I have never met before) inviting me to a surprise party for a close mutual friend. I immediately accepted - all sounded lovely. The original plan was to have gathering in a bar but it ended up too tricky to find somewhere suitable so the lady organising offered to have it in her home. All fine and dandy. A second email follows not long after asking people to transfer x amount £ into her bank account to cover food and drinks cost. Another friend of mine (also invited ) suggested instead that everyone could take something with them but this suggestion was ignored and a further message followed asking for money to be transferred by such and such date. Now AIBU to think that asking people who you don't know for money is a bit impolite? I am all for sharing costs but would it not have been better to just ask people to bring something as a gesture?