to put up this passive aggressive note...

[flamemeallyouwant]

We woke up Saturday morning to a car roof-rack type contraption having been left on the pavement outside our front gate meaning we couldn't get it open and the path in front of the house was blocked. It was light enough to move out of the way of course but that's not the point, who the fuck leaves some old shite right outside someone's house practically resting on their front gate?

Ok, so we thought someone might be moving some stuff and would come back for it later but by 8pm, it was still there.

So being a fan of the passive agressive signs website, I made a sign and stuck it on the contraption. It said 'I was fly tipped by an inconsiderate twat'.

DH thinks I was being U and petty. I agree it was maybe a little bit petty but it completely pissed me off.

By Sunday morning it had been moved to near the communal bins but still had the sign attached btw.

I love it

I'm afraid I'm more on your DH's side. Probably it was just a neighbour who moved it for you, not the actual person who left it there. I wouldn't be too impressed either if I walked past with my DC reading your sign.

I can understand your anger, but think you probably made yourself look foolish to your neighbours more than told off the person who left it.

We once found the best part of a three seater sofa on our driveway, blocking our car in. One of the neighbours had put it out on the street for the council to collect the following morning, but someone, probably kids or drunks, moved it in the night.

I imagine this is what happened with the roof rack. A neighbour would have put it somewhere sensible for the council/scrap man to collect, but someone thought it was amusing to mess about with it. I'm sure the neighbour will have been embarrassed when they realised you thought they'd been twats and put it over your gate, but it's not likely to have been them that did it.

I read the title and I was all ready to post "YWBU - being passive aggressive is very weak and you should be a grown up and have an open honest face to face discussion tut tut tut " about whatever the subject.

But actually that's brilliant and I applaud you!

Well done - I shall reconsider the use of passive aggressiveness because it would appear it has some value!

So I have a very difficult friend (/ex-friend?) who is causing grief. She has always been difficult - very demanding, gets very angry over minor things etc. - but she's a lot of fun, is often very kind and we've been friends for a long time. She never really liked my OH from the moment they met, used to be very rude to him, sometimes refused to be in the same room as him, but had very non-specific complaints, like "I don't like his attitude'. Given that all of my other friends really like him, this seems to just be her problem. When we announced that we were getting engaged she was furious and now hasn't spoken to me for months. I sent her a present and card on her birthday, asking if we could meet up, and she ignored the message and didn't reciprocate when my birthday came around.

What's pissing me off is the attitude of our friends. They're basically keeping their heads below the parapet and hoping it will all blow over (as, to my shame, I have done in the past when she's blown up at other friends). I feel really miserable and wish they'd stand up for me... it's got to the point where I feel like I'm expected to make nice and grovel to stop things being awkward for them.

My OH is doing a temporary job on the other side of the country in a few months so he'll be away for a little while, and I'm worried about getting lonely... should I make nice with Ms. Difficult so I have a few more friends around, or should I stand my ground? We've been friends for such a long time, I'm struggling to adjust to this gap in my life.

Oh no I'm so sorry!!!! Posted that in the wrong place!!!

Was going to answer to this - "note sounds hilarious, love a bit of passive aggression..."

sorry again!

rivet So sorry to hear you're having problems with your friend

thanks flame