WIBU to ask these women to be quiet?

[whitecandles]

I have just come back from holiday in Vietnam. I live in Korea so it was a 5-ish hour flight, left Vietnam at midnight and back around 5 Korea time. I was looking forward to a rest on the plane, didn't expect silence, but I had ear plugs so thought I'd be fine.

A group of 5 or 6 women sitting behind me talked and laughed at top volume the whole flight. I could hear them over my ear plugs, and even over the entertainment system once I gave up on the idea of sleep. The rest of the plane was pretty much silent. (Being loud on public transport is just not on in Korea, and grandmas will think nothing of shouting at you to shut up if you talk too loudly.)

Eventually, I turned round and asked them politely if they could be a little quieter. They just gawped at me, were quiet for a few minutes, then went back to talking loudly.

I get that they were travelling, probably excited to be arriving in a new country, but is it unreasonable to expect people to think that others may be tired/on their way to a day of work/wanting to sleep, especially on a flight at that time of night? And especially when travelling to a country where it's pretty well known that people are quiet in public?

For what it's worth, I always try to be quiet in public places, especially enclosed ones where people can't readily escape. I think it's just manners. But willing to accept that I'm wrong.

Yanbu. That would have annoyed me too. Like you say they were maybe excited but on a night flight or any flight for that matter, people should talk at a normal volume or lower but definitely not higher volume. Don't think any more about it.

Depends if it was a day flight, or a lights off night flight.

Apologies, night flight. I'd have said something to the cabin crew. Authority figures make an impact in a way that another member of the public can't.

Maude, like I said, it left at midnight, got in at 5AM.

I would have asked the cabin crew to speak to them.

Ditto cabin crew. Never tackle people on a flight.

Huh. It would never have occured to me to ask someone else to ask them to be quiet.

It just boggles my mind that people would be loud on any flight, but especially not one that late at night, and not when everyone else is being quiet.

Poor etiquette on their part. Lights off= STFU. I can only imagine they'll find Korea quite an experience

Think of this this way whitecandles - your classmate tells you to stfu, you take the piss/ignore them. Your teacher tells you to stfu, you do it.

The cabin crew are the authority on the flight - and if people are disruptive on flights now and refuse to do as the crew tell them, they can face prosecution. A lot of people are aware of this and so will actually behave themselves if told to do so by crew (not always of course...)

YABU It's public transport, if you want quiet, fly private.

What, like, a private plane? Because that's within the reach of most people? Are you actually saying that people have no right to expect consideration and basic manners from other people and the only way to avoid this is to become really really rich? FFS.

I recommend Bose (other brands are available) noise cancelling ear-covering headphones. I take them on every flight. You can hear literally nothing, even if you're not listening to anything through them.

fly private aye alright, OP can order a private jet next time

YADNBU OP, it is extremely inconsiderate when people are excessively noisy (on any flight IMO, not just night flight)

I'm cabin crew. We would have gladly asked them to be quieter, if we notice we usually do ask them anyway. Sorry you had such a rotten night flight.

Years ago me and a friend were on a flight and some people complained that we were too noisy, we were trying to keep it down but we'd had a couple of drinks and were obviously not being as quiet as we thought we were.

The cabin crew's answer to this was to move me and my friend to sit in the cockpit with the pilots. Brilliant result all round, the other people got rid of us, and we had the best seats on the planes

Even if that were true, that 2 sozzled passengers were put in the cockpit with the pilots, the last thing a jump seat could ever be called is the best seat in the house.

YANBU and even if it had been a daytime flight, people should still show a bit of consideration and talk at a reasonable volume.

And just because a form of transport isn't 'private', it doesn't mean anything goes and people can be as rude and inconsiderate as they like.

Dh and I had this I the cinema last week and it was the naice middle class arts cinema! About 5 women were talking through the film. Dh asked them politely to be quiet which worked for 5 minutes then started up again - talked loudly throughout entire film spoilt it for us and those near us. Lights went up and they were all 40 plus - not kids. Plus it was an adult type film (wild). Bloody annoying how can you get to the age of 45 and know how to behave in a cinema?

Pre-9/11 people went in cockpits oftenWeebirdie. I have 10+ times, often with my over excited children.

Doesn't sound that far fetched to me. I'm assuming the ladies were merry-drunk, and not drunk-drunk.

Same with the cinema - complain to front of house staff. I have on more than occasion. Once the inconsiderate arses who were talking were chucked out and I've been given free tickets to make up for the spoiled experience too.

When I was young and thin I spent a whole flight in the flight deck and the night in a hotel with the pilot