AIBU - a birthday party mafia one I'm afraid

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AIBU to think it's rude to loose a child's birthday party invite? Then tell the inviter (parent to parent conversation) as opposed to going to the effort to check details (specifically date!, not just timings) with other invited families?

I'm not bonkers. I know IABVU but just reminds me that I didn't want to invite this lot in the first place.

Sorry. I know I'm awful.

I'm sorry, but I lose half the stuff out if my son's school bag (he tends to start taking stuff out at the childminders). And I would go back to the parent to check details rather than rely on word of mouth. Not to offend, but to ensure I get the details right. But I would be extremely apologetic!! Many people don't bother responding to invites where we are so I wouldn't mind if I was hosting the party;I would just be grateful for the response!

Yabu to think it's rude to lose an invitation . Have you never lost anything? Very strange thread.

Doesn't sound particularly rude.

If I lost my DC's party invitation I wouldn't think twice about asking the host for the details again

YABU, and a bit odd, frankly.

Sorry but based on this incident alone YABU.
I double checked an invite date with the parent - seems like the logical thing to do as I had mislaid the invite, can't see any problem with that.

Sorry - I don't get the unreasonable bit. I sometimes (often?) lose things - and check in with the person who gave the invite for the details. Oops...

Much rather they don't turn up and you send them an invoice eh??

All true. Thank you. Mumsnet at it's best and grip received.

Sorry all.

What?

What would be ruder, that or just not turning up because you have lost the details? Agree that it's better to ask parent directly as then you know the info is correct. Provided they ask politely, not j problem. I have both done this and had it done to me.

YABU

Why would the person who lost the invite know who else had been invited.

Why would this person waste time speaking to random parents when she could speak directly to you

It's beyond me why you think this is rude.

Depends on all sorts of things.
My three children all get invites and I don't often meet them straight out of school, so am not always on top of all the admin in the book bags.
Do make an effort to go to every party invited to though, but my apologies if you are referring to me.
I am rarely at the school gate so hard to chat to others to check details of parties, and didn't want to contact just anyone in the class in the unfortunate possibility that the other child might not have been invited...
So, thought it more polite to check with the host family rather than anyone else.

Uhm, YABU.

Oneandyoni I'm not referring to you specifically :)

Thanks for replying everyone. I do know I'm being a maniac over this. I'm a tad pfb plus previous piss boiling.

Parties are hard work.

I look back (my older 2 are teens) and wonder wtf I was thinking!

I have done this in the past. DD lost the invite on the way home. The next day I spoke to the other mum about it and she gave me another invite. She was fine about it. How is it rude?

I would think the politest thing to do after losing the invite is to ask the inviter and explain!! What is wrong with you ??!!

This is odd! If I lost an invitation I would phone the host and ask for the details. Am I making a massive faux pas?! Have I been living life wrong all these years?

I would have no problem with someone saying to me 'sorry I've lost your invite - can you let me have the details again'.

Much rather that than not turn up or not acknowledge it.

I'm all for manners and doing things 'right' but I'm happy for people to speak in person, drop a text or a Facebook message or send a pigeon to be honest as long as they let me know.