To be upset ad DS knowing so many swear words

[Strictlyison]

DS is 9, in year 4. He's a real chatterbox and we talk a lot, about anything. He occasionally asks me is THIS WORD a swear word - he spells out the offending word in question. Today he asked me is G-I-T a swear word... then he asked me is 'the c word' a swear word, not the s-h-I-t word, the other c word... c-u-n-t. I was so upset but I didn't show it. I explained to him that it was a very bad word not to be used ever, and I asked where he'd heard it. From his best friend and other boys at school. Aibu to be very upset with this?

YANBU however it's not your fault you cannot control who your DS socialises with at school.

What did he say when you explained it was a bad word?

He knew it was a bad word, I am not sure he understand that some words (like shit) are bad words and other words are very very red card super bad words. I don't think he gets it.

Well, I have a Y4 DS and it appears to me that most of the boys in his year are acquiring a pretty rich vocabulary, I'm afraid, although I haven't actually heard mention of 'cunt' yet. If you think that they will be mixing with Y5 and 6, and a number of them will have siblings at secondary school, and then factor in the kids whose parents will swear freely, I think it's pretty inevitable that words will get learnt.

I don't think you can prevent them picking up the words at this age, but what you can do is have lots and lots of talks about acceptable times, places, and contexts - and obviously enforce whatever rules around swearing you think are appropriate for your own home.

my mother has an awful tongue on her and curses frequently for absolutely no reason as part of every day conversation. i had to teach my dd from a young age that these words are inappropriate and not to be used. im so lucky that she hasn't repeated them but she does recognise curse words and gives out to my mom for using them. before i get flamed i guess its not great that an eight year old corrects an adults language but it really is bad to the point of embarrassment and she is used to us all asking her to stop constantly.

No I am not sure DS gets the difference between a mild swear word and a really super offensive one. It's a tricky concept at 9. I think talking with him about it will help, and it sounds like you already do that very well, so hopefully you can just help him work through it over time.