to have said no

[ghostspirit]

i was in greggs with my children. we just got a sausage roll and drink. kids kept saying can i have this and that. i said no. an old lady said your more strict than i used to be. Then as we were leaving, she said do you mind if i treat your kids to a doughnut. I said they could not have one. as i had already told them no. she looked very offended. but it was more that i did not want to be taking money from an old lady. but on the other hand she was trying to be nice.

It was kind of her but because you'd already said no, you should stick with no.

It's not mean spirited and joyless.

I fail to see how you can teach you children not to accept something from a stranger but do it yourself in front of them.

It doesn't matter if she was trying to be nice. It's a well known lesson that you don't accept something from someone you don't know. (I know this thread isn't about that)

well it kind of is about that crapbag because if i had said yes then i would have been doing what i tell them not to.

It sounds like she meant well.

I was embarrassed when I told dad I didn't have money for cake at a cafe, and the sales assistant offered it on the house. He meant well, but I was just trying not to ruin her dinner.

Is this a MN Bingo thread? We've had the Greggs Sausage Rolls, where are the 52" Screen Tellies in Unemployable People's Houses and the Parent and Child Parking Spaces?

Interfering Old Lady - check.

Your Kids Your Rules - check

Feeding your kids crap - check

Oh and

Stranger danger - check

Money or no money, Greggs or organic alfalfa sprouts you had said No. And that's the end of it.
She can't have thought you were too poor for doughnuts if you've just given each child a fiver and some parameters in which to make a choice.
She was just getting involved inappropriately and the only thing unreasonable about your behaviour is that you're doubting yourself for refusing her.

well she would not have known about the fiver and other bits :) yep feed my kids crap just sending my son down shop to get some chocolate yum yum.