To want to get baby stuff out of the loft before my baby is here??

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Me and dp have literally just had a row about this.
I am due in 3 weeks time and want to get crib, pushchair and car seat out of the loft to clean and make sure it's alright. He, on the other hand thinks it's fine to just leave it until the baby is here or and I quote "3 days before baby comes" which is when exactly!! Because I could go into labour any time you moron!!
I am so annoyed with him! I don't know wether this thread is going to make me feel any better. Either il feel like I'm stressing for nothing or il be even more annoyed at dp for not understanding!
So, AIBU to want to get organised for baby?!?

Yanbu

My dh had the same idea as yours. DD arrived 3 days before my due date. He built her bedside crib while I was in labour :D This actually worked for us as it kept him occupied and out of my way but not great if you want him with you!

YANBU. There is no reason not to get it down! I would want to clean/air/check it over. And I'm someone who is completely disorganised!

I say shame him as well! Ask your parents to do it. Shaming and job done.

Soundsystem, I think our dp would get along nicely!
I just want to be organised. He likes to do things as and when needed. I feel I need them now. He thinks we don't. Which in theory we don't but practically we should. I feel I am a pretty laid back person so I don't like to do things when not needed. But this is different. He tried comparing my argument to getting ready for work. He said he has work on Monday but you don't see him getting things ready 2 days before. Like, what the hell is that! You can't compare having a baby to getting ready for work!!
He's gone out for a few hours and said to me, " I don't see why you're making such a big deal out of this but if you want to do it then do it."
So il be having someone come over tomorrow to do a job he should be doing for me.
Knowing him, he will get off his arse and help out because he will look like an arsehole if he doesn't.
Still it shouldn't have to come to this, the stubborn fucker should just do it!

We were a bit relaxed last time as DS1 was over a week late.

DS2 arrived a week before his due date and didn't even have a crib ready!

YANBU. And organised with the clothes. I dread to think when I'll get DC3's clothes ready. I don't finish work until 3 weeks before I'm due, so probably then.

He sounds utterly clueless. Nip that in the bud before baby gets here or you'll soon resent having a manchild cluttering up the place.

He needs to get himself into gear, laziness won't cut it when baby is here.

Seriously, right from the beginning make sure he's not checking out of the actual, practical, work-like bits of parenthood.

And no, YADNBU. Is he an actual idiot? Can he not understand at all that his job right now is to help you to prepare and that what a heavily pregnant woman wants is what she gets - especially when that wish is directly related to baby's imminent arrival?!

Hmmm just realised if all those things are in the loft it's unlikely this is your first. Sorry if I stated a load of obvious things. I think his cluelessness tricked me into thinking this was a first baby on the way...

He needs to get his act together! He sounds so laidback that he's practically horizontal. Or he's being thoughtless.

Btw I had terrible spd with dc4, but it made no difference to labour or delivery.

Laid back is just code for exceptionally lazy.

If you want to do it then do it?

So he wants someone who is a few weeks away from giving birth to scramble up into a loft and hunt out baby things because he can't be arsed?

Nice man.

Considering the car seat is something you'll need to bring the baby home in, it makes sense to get it down now, get it cleaned, aired, check it's ok and get it fitted. Otherwise you'll be in the hospital and he'll be up in the loft trying to find it.

I think if you do manage to get someone to come and help, you should be very upfront it's because he told you to do it yourself. He should look like an arse if he's choosing to be one.