to speak to my neighbours

[januaryblues11]

I live in a first floor flat.. am always mindful of the neighbours below, dont let ds run in the flat etc.. however they are not mindful of us. They don't go to bed on Friday or Saturday nights until about 5am. All night they are talking loudly, shouting, slamming doors. Last night I got 1 hour of sleep. I don't sleep well anyway. I have tinnitus which is enough of a nightmare without all this. The flat was built in the 1880's so there is virtually no sound proofing. All week I dread Friday and Saturday nights. It's making me ill through stress. AIBU if I went down and told them to keep it down at night?

Can you move?

YANBU if you explain how much you can hear and ask them to keep it down at night. If you are very quiet, they may not realise how much noise is transmitted throughyour floor.

I really can't afford to move. it would cost around 2k and I just don't have it.

It sounds like they can't get much worse so it's worth politely explaining to them how awful the building is and how much you can hear. If you've already tried ear plugs/white noise I'd tell them that too.

Go for the empathy vote. Say you understand they want to let their hair down but you dread it all week as you don't get any sleep till 5am. You are really struggling as a result and it's making you very unhappy

Of course you need to say something, they may not realise.

I'd ask nicely what's the worst that can happen they say no and carry on the way they are then in that case I'd get up at 5am and tell DS to do star jumps and to make as much noise as he possibly can

I would reserve my noisiest behaviour/music/banging saucepans off the floor until 7am the following morning. They may not realise how the noise transmits if you are quiet. Give them a taste of their own medicine or ask them to keep it down, depends how comfortable you are with confrontation.

can you move?

Why would that possibly be the first port of call?!

I wouldn't "go down and tell them to keep it down" but I would go and have a conversation with them to explain the situation and ask them to be quieter. Do you rent and have the same letting agent? You could make a complaint to them and ask them to deal with it also.

It is a noise insulation issue, messy and costly. Op could be in rental.

we do have the same landlord yes. can you complain to a landlord about noise ? I thought they only acted if something was broken in the flat ?

It is absolutely a job for the landlord. It might be easier for he landlord to have a chat to them than for you to broach it. Depends on your relationship really

Yes you can speak to the landlord, especially if he owns other properties in the building so won't need to specify which neighbours have made the complaint.

May also be worth checking your contract as it's likely that there's a clause in there that says "don't be a noisy pain in the arse" in which case the landlord will definitely be able to say something. It will be quicker for you to do it yourself but if you're uncomfortable then the landlord is a good impartial party.