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To go away without the DC's

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Jessiepops · 20/02/2015 22:40

Hi all,
Sory for the long post but feel I need to explain the back story.
DS's (6/9) go on holiday with their grandparents every year for the last week in August, they have done this since DS1 was around 2/3 and DS2 joined in at around the same age.
They love it and are always excited about their week away with nan and grandad.
We go away early on in the year with the kids for a week and have a few weekend trips away during the year

Last year my DP and I both had holidays free for when the DS's went away, and DP suggested we take the opportunity to have a break ourselves.
He is a keen fisherman so we booked a private log cabin with private lake for the week.
He fished and I relaxed in the hot tub, no stress or day to day worries.
It really was a chilled out holiday.

This year we are going away with the kids at Easter and then again at spring bank.
As the DS's will be away with their grandparents my DP has sugested we go back to the same place again.
I'd love to and we have booked agian but have been met with a few responses like "oh,,,, going away without the kids agian,,," and "I couldn't have a holiday without the DC's being there it wouldn't be right",,, I've explained that the kids are away anyway so it's not like we are leaving them behind.

My DP and I have the odd weekend away together (birthdays mainly) but there's nothing wrong with that is there?

Surely we all deserve a break now and again?

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thatsucks · 21/02/2015 07:36

Did two friends really say that about you going away when the kids are already away... really? Because it is rather irritating when people throw in 'judgemental friends' in order to get an AIBU going...

Sausages123 · 21/02/2015 07:36

I would currently sell a kidney to have some time away (actually pref by myself, with no one else to think about) as your children are having a fab time with family there is no reason to feel remotely guilty or question your choice

deste · 21/02/2015 11:35

We went to Paris and my DC's went to Butlins. No-one reported us.

MissDuke · 21/02/2015 12:11

This a perfect arrangement. If it was the annual family holiday and you were leaving the children at home to go - then that would be U! This is completely different, please just smile when people say this and think how sad it would be to be that jealous and bitter Grin

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 21/02/2015 12:22

It sounds lovely. As someone who has no one to look after our DD and hasn't even had a couple of hours off for 8 months I am very jealous! Your children are happy and having a fab time. You have other holidays with your DC. You come back refreshed and happy. Can't see why anyone would have a problem with this.

dottytablecloth · 21/02/2015 12:25

People making negative comments are just jealous as I am because I would love a child free holiday and it's not looking likely!

magimedi · 21/02/2015 13:05

When my DC was young my parents did exactly the same & DH & I went off somewhere on out own. We spent a lot of time indulging in the wicked adult practice of reading in silence, drinking wine, chatting to each other etc etc.

I am sure it has contributed to the fact that we are still happily married after nearly 30 years.

Summerisle1 · 21/02/2015 13:28

You aren't going away without the dcs though are you? They have gone away without you and you're simply taking advantage of their holidays with their gps by having some relaxing time of your own.

Don't listen to people who aren't as fortunate to have this chance!

SpecificOcean · 21/02/2015 13:31

We are going away without ours in the summer for a few days. Ours are young teens we have already taken them on holiday this year, but I still feel very guilty...NOT! Grin
Don't give a shit what anyone else says just go and enjoy yourselves.

andadietcoke · 21/02/2015 13:40

I could have written this. Except my DTs are 18 months old. One of my friends started on a rant about not being able to understand people who go away without their children then very obviously stopped herself when she remembered we were thinking about it. My parents want to take the DTs to Anglesey for a week at Easter and suggested we went away. I still can't decide what to do, but I would actively encourage you to go, YANBU at all, so maybe that's my answer!!

redcaryellowcar · 21/02/2015 13:48

I think it's a lovely idea, just as soon as dc2 starts sleeping properly dh and I will be off for a night or two away, a whole week of proper sleep and chilling in a hot tub sounds blissful. Enjoy it,and be thankful your dc have such lovely grandparents!

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Jessiepops · 21/02/2015 16:07

Thanks all, and yes thatsucks they did really say that.
That's the reason why I started this thread as I don't see the harm, but when I mentioned it to 2 of my friends whilst at swimming one said "ooh you're going away without the kids again?" And although she tried to turn it into a joke there was something about the way she said it and looked at our other friend (almost like they've spoke about it before).
I said yes because they're away anyway and I'd only be at home doing nothing for a week. The other said she couldn't have a holiday without her DD as it wouldn't feel right.
They are probably just jealous but it irritated me.
I'm really looking forward to it now, and I'm counting the days till August ??

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Jessiepops · 21/02/2015 16:13

And dietcoke, 18 month old twins,, I bet you could use a break lol

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thissickbeatTM · 21/02/2015 21:27

Stealth boast much?! Grin

This can't be a serious question??!!

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