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To not take DD to the GP/A&E until Monday

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HearTheThunderRoar · 20/02/2015 22:15

So DD (15) has a had a bog standard cold, so had Friday off school, much to her horror as she has three internal assessments due next week.

But now she has an awful cough that she cannot rid of and every time she tries to speak she starts dry coughing, this has happened before with most colds and the cough lingers for weeks, if not months, so the GP have always just put her on something similar to an asthma inhaler (she has sports induced asthma).

The problem is the inhaler we received last time has run out of puffs, so I will have to take her to A&E but I live abroad where we have to pay for healthcare and it costs $50 to go to A&E but I can't really afford it at the moment and the GP would only be about $20 on the Monday. If I can't get her in on the Monday, I will take her to A&E.

I feel bad though she's going to spend the whole weekend in bed with a mountain of homework to do. AIBU?

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Gileswithachainsaw · 20/02/2015 22:39

Ffs. not tonight. NOW!!!

glampinggaloshes · 20/02/2015 22:39

No. Take her in now.

WD41 · 20/02/2015 22:40

So you managed to magic up the $30 then

Well done

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WestEast · 20/02/2015 22:40

Asthma kills people.
Her inhaler is literally a life saver.

A woman I went to school withs 10 year old son died due to an asthma attack a little while ago, and that was after using his inhaler.

Sort your damn priorities. Beg, borrow, steal. Get the inhaler.

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HearTheThunderRoar · 20/02/2015 22:41

No she's not wheezing and she had a perfectly good sleep last night, she doesn't cough when she's not talking.

DD is the one wanting to go to school on Monday as she's freaking out about internal assessments.

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Boomf · 20/02/2015 22:42

I'm not sure name calling is helpful. Give the OP a break although I know it's emotive. Her DD isn't a tiny so can presumably voice how she feels.

She's taking her in. That's a good thing

fearandloathinginambridge · 20/02/2015 22:42

As someone who suffered very badly with asthma as a kid I can tell you how terrifying and uncomfortable it is to be short of breath. I can also tell you that having no medication when you are short of breath just magnifies the anxiety. Please take Her to A&E.

Gileswithachainsaw · 20/02/2015 22:42

triage will determine urgency regardless of how many are waiting. Ffs. If she can't breathe it won't be 2-3 hours. and who fucking cares if it is. It's what you do as a parent. spend hours if need be in a&e

CadleCrap · 20/02/2015 22:42

In lots of countries asthma inhalers are available over the counter without a prescription. Have you tried that?

championnibbler · 20/02/2015 22:43

Christ.

countessmarkyabitch · 20/02/2015 22:43

Jaysus people, OP said her dd has a cough, not that she's turning blue and can't breathe. There is a big difference.

OP, don't mind them. They don't undertstand what its like to have to pay for healthcare, and that you can't go to a dr every time you might do if it was free.
If you regularly use the inhalers and they work for this, your pharmacist might be able, depending on local laws, give you a small supply and you can get a prescription next week.

ragged · 20/02/2015 22:43

I'm sorry you have had such a bad time from other posters.
She can sleep, she isn't struggling to breathe.
How stressed out is she by the cough, can you lower her stress in other ways?

GoadyGeisha · 20/02/2015 22:43

I will take her in tonight (midday Saturday here) so we won't have to wait in A&E for 2-3 hours.

This is a wind up surely?

If you take her now she will be seen by 3pm at the latest yet you'd rather leave it many more hours so that you don't have to wait. That doesn't make any sense at all.

At least if you go now and she collapses in A&E with breathing problems they'll be able to deal with it there and then. Wait another 8 or 10 hours and you might be forking out for the cost of an ambulance as well.

lemisscared · 20/02/2015 22:43

do you have a credit card? anyone you can borrow the money from? its easy to judge but if the op doesn't actually have the money how can she pay?

do you have to pay at the point of treatment?

i do feel you need to get her seen though op. do what you need to do.

countessmarkyabitch · 20/02/2015 22:44

(they also don't know what its like to suffer with chronic coughs clearly, you don't need a dr for every one when you are used to them!)

glampinggaloshes · 20/02/2015 22:44

Not getting enough oxygen is life threatening. My child had pneumonia from a cough and viral asthma. Her fdiend was in life support when her lung collapsed worth the same problem and it affected her windpipe. You can NEVER wait. Do you understand. You don't leave it

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HearTheThunderRoar · 20/02/2015 22:44

There won't be much point as we will just sit there for hours bored shitless for hours - the previous times we've waited hours unless gone at 10pm Hmm

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sosix · 20/02/2015 22:45

Jeez, go now. Poor girl.

EpicBlue · 20/02/2015 22:46

Wait until Monday if you are prepared to risk her dying in the meantime.

countessmarkyabitch · 20/02/2015 22:47

Its not life threatening! She is not wheezing, there is nothing at all to say she is not getting enough oxygen, she is sleeping soundly, at no point did OP suggest her DD is struggling to breathe! Where are you people all getting the idea that the child is close to death?
Read the info given and lay off the hysterics.

MrsCs · 20/02/2015 22:47

I recently ignored a cough and wound up hospitalised with pneumonia (not fun at 36 weeks pregnant) had to be in for two days and am on a cocktail of meds now. Don't delay, at least I only made myself suffer (baby was fine) get your daughter seen!

Sirzy · 20/02/2015 22:48

DS has severe asthma. He rarely wheezes. His main symptom is generally the coughing.

There is a massive misconception that asthmatics always wheeze. They don't.

glampinggaloshes · 20/02/2015 22:49

Countess. You don't know what you're talking about. Coughing and failing to breathe from asthma often present identically. My daughters wheeze was only heard with the stethoscope and a machine that said her oxygen was plummeting. What she had was an awful repetitive cough

WD41 · 20/02/2015 22:49

Why did you bother posting this OP?

You had no intention of taking her due to it being too expensive / too boring in A&E / not wanting to miss something on TV

I really hope this is a wind up.

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