Exdp leaving bag outside door

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Dsis was in an emotional abusive relationship, solicitors have been negotiating visitation etc anyway exdp was asked not to visit property or a non molestation order would be put into effect, exdp received then letter yesterday but last night about midnight exdp came through my garden (dsis and I live next door to one another) and put a bag full of toys outside dsis back door.

Whilst it was kind to give toys to the dc, my dsis is terrified as she was next to back door writing last night and he would of been able to see her and she's freaked out that he's been coming regularly and spying on her.

dsis is going through survive counselling and today she's going to advise her solicitor as to what happened but was exdp BU?

It's a bag full of toys not anything sinister, dsis thinks she's being unreasonable to feel upset about this, but I don't, its a bit creepy.

What do you think?

No it would've upset me too. Climbing through gardens in the night leaving a bag of toys. He could have arranged to leave them with you for her or when he next saw DC. This behaviour was inappropriate.

It's creepy as fuck and your poor sister needs to get the order put in place so she's got some comeback of the twat does it again. Creeping about in someone's garden at night is not normal, even if he tries to pretend he's doing something nice for the children.

He is due to have the dc tomorrow for the day, so could of given toys to dc himself imo

He got the letter yesterday? Or in the last few days?
He did this to say to her 'Just try it, you can't stop me doing what I want, I can get to you any time I choose'
She needs to report this to her solicitor and follow through with the NM order.
She is probably desensitised to his behaviour and can't see how outside normal his actions are.
He was not 'kind' to give the toys. It wasn't about toys but control and he was BVU. You will need to gently keep supporting your sister so she can build herself back up and be able to see how bad her xdp is.

She's told solicitor I'll kepo y'all updated