Or would this lack of apology annoy anyone else?

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Get back home and some neighbours have their van in my unofficial parking space behind my house, unloading stuff. Fair enough, I park in our allocated space as DH car isn't here.

However I get to my gate and the van is actually parked across it meaning I can barely squeeze me and DS between the van and wall to get into my house.

Now just as I'm trying to get round the female is coming to get more from the van and sees me. Not even a "sorry won't be long" or acknowledgment that I'm trying to not scrape mine and baby DS bodies along a brick wall.

I don't mind they've parked there, it's not an official allocated space, but thought that her total ignorance was just rude.

Aaaand vent complete.

It would annoy me momentarily but I wouldn't dwell on it.

It's just annoying that she watched me struggle. I needed to vent. Now snuggling DS as he goes to sleep

Don't make me have to sing Frozen. The high bits are out of my range, and it upsets the husky over the road.

Let it Go is about no longer repressing how you feel, isn't it? Best go and scream at them OP

What do you mean by 'unofficial'? Who owns the land?

So someone parked across your gate and it was a tight squeeze to get by?

You think she should have apologised but she didn't?

Bit rude yes, but nothing I'd give a second thought to.

I agree it's rude. But she might not have even noticed you if she was busy or preoccupied.

The "female"? Really?

Eeek, I haven't thought about it since but this came up on my threads I'm on!

I said I just needed to vent. But to answer a few bits:

A row of our houses have space at the back of our properties. The owners of these houses use these as "unofficial" parking spaces. The other owners and occupiers respect the others unofficial parking spaces. It didn't bother me they were there, more that the inconsiderate way that they had parked and ignored me struggling to get into my property. It is a new development and isn't council owned if that's what was being asked.

"The female" was meant as in the female occupier rather than the male one.

And she saw me. She looked right at me.

And honestly, it was a vent at a situation that I found frustrating at the time. And I have "let it gooooo"

"Female" is generally used for animals. The word you're looking for is "woman."

In which case I stand corrected and apologise for using the wrong phrase

FFS there is some right narky people on here, the OP said female, it's obvious she meant the woman...does it really fucking matter that she didn't use the word woman???

OP, I would have been pissed off too and would probably have asked them to move over a little...but now the moment has gone so I'd just sit there and enjoy your snuggles

I always tell DH to ask himself 'are they annoying me intentionally?'

If not - thoughtless, preoccupied or whatever - then don't let it get to you. We've probably all annoyed someone in this way without even realising.

If yes - tell them and give them the opportunity to put it right.

People who get annoyed and, rather than doing anything to resolve it, simply grumble and give themselves high blood pressure are daft IMO.

I'd have said 'can you move your van up a bit please?'.

Eep I think that referring to a woman as "the female" is meaner than the non-apology thing! Tbh I don't really see why an apology would have been necessary - they had the right to be there as far as I can tell.

I've lived in places where 'female' was used much more often than 'woman' and it wasn't derogatory; just a difference in usage.

OP, I'd have been pissed off too. Glad you're able to let it gooooo.

@Sorcha - where is that? Genuinely never heard that (except on US cop shows I suppose).

Good post nequidnimid

I am often amazed, on MN, at what leaves people 'furious' 'enraged' 'fuming', etc.

Please allow me to reiterate,
I wasn't fuming, raging, mad etc... I was annoyed that they had blocked my gate making accessing my property very difficult. The fact they were parked where they were didn't bother me at all. It was the inconsiderate WAY they had parked, and that the woman saw me struggling getting myself and my baby through, without even a "oh sorry" that annoyed me.

And no doubt if I had said "woman" that would have offended someone too.

And maybe I'm old fashioned and would apologise if I saw someone struggling due to something I had done.

Maybe they were miles away and didn't realise you were struggling?

Maybe they saw you struggling and thought 'oh bugger, I'll keep my head down and get out of the way asap'

Maybe they thought 'God look at her making a passive aggressive show of struggling when there's loads of room'

They probably didn't think 'haha look at her struggling due to my inconsiderate parking, shall I apologise? Nah'

Either way, glad they've gone and you're enjoying your baby.

@flimmyflan Yes, the US; cops and other uniformed people tend to use 'female' as a noun, and I think the usage has spread to the general population. Last time I went through immigration I was corrected by an immigration officer who insisted that I was a female. (I think he'd asked about my gender and I was feeling pedantic - totally not worth it.)

I also heard it frequently in Scotland in everyday conversation, eg "I'm a female so I spend lots of money on shoes" etc.

Nothing wrong with coming on for a vent , you chose the wrong week to do it though, the Aibu viper cunts have been really tetchy, anyone would have thought it is half term or summat.
I don't really know what's wrong with female either, it isn't something I say in rl conversation, but I don't find it offensive. Nor would I find calling a man a male offensive. Is there something about it that I don't know ?