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To ask if anybody's got any insights as to what I can do ... ?

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Stardustnight · 18/02/2015 21:47

I suspect the answer is NO - and I have a baby due in July. So in a way it's redundant but am thinking 'five year plan.'

I am 33.
I have a 10 month old and an 8 year old.
I have a degree in English.

I wonder if anyone knows anything I could do, in the future maybe?

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OllyBJolly · 18/02/2015 23:10

It's almost totally up to you. What is important to you? Do you have to earn a living, or is this about finding fulfilling, rewarding work?

I was a single parent with two kids under 3 and I had to earn enough money to pay the bills and a childminder. I had about 12 weeks to secure an income or I would have been homeless, or move in with my parents 200 miles away. That was it. I never had the luxury of thinking what do I want to do, what do I enjoy etc etc. I applied for every job I could. Unless there was a specification for a degree in brain surgery, I applied. (my degree is philosophy, previous experience (very limited) was in sales and training.).

I landed a job as branch manager of a recruitment company - not a field I would have chosen (but worked with some fantastic people). Did that for 10 years,earned a pretty decent salary, financed an MBA, and left to work for a client. I've worked as a consultant for the past 10 years, self employed for 5. Absolutely love it. I have no particular skills other than I work hard,I get things done and I think I get on well with people. I am okay at a lot of tasks, but not great at any one particular thing. Clients pay me because I help them out with stuff they don't have the resource to do themselves.

Had I not been "up against it" I might have chosen a different path. Desperation is an effective motivator.

Stardustnight · 18/02/2015 23:11

I don't have many skills, to be totally honest.

It's something I need to think about, certainly, but I don't know ... my options are quite limited I think Confused

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ragged · 19/02/2015 00:29

Your options are only limited because of the kids tying you down, and that IS temporary; where are their dads?

TiredButFine · 19/02/2015 07:30

OP what do you want out of working - money (how much ballpark), social interaction, grown up time?
It's a good time to start making plans but with DC3 on the way, nothing has to be started/set in stone right now.
You sound a bit stuck/down on yourself, are you worried about cash?
Social Work is both rewarding and very hard work and can mean full-time or late working, studying and there's the emotional toll.
If you really want to do it, get a taste via volunteering to get a feel for it before committing to all that study.
A friend of mine (high flyer top job etc) set up a laundry business, ironing etc. Employs the staff, does no actual ironing or cleaning. Makes a fortune during hours which suit.
Same with private tuition - you could try it out, volunteer, shadow someone for a few days now

Stardustnight · 19/02/2015 14:43

Thanks; I am a little worried about money, yes.

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