To not want "compliments" from strangers

[Liger123]

Earlier I posted a tweet on an important political issue. Not long after, I had a reply from a man who made a comment on my appearance. Although it was a "positive" one, I couldn't help but feel like he was trying to undermine me in a way, by ignoring what I had written and focusing on my physical features.

I replied that he was being patronising and he said that I had the "feminism" disease. Although he was undoubtedly being an idiot, I'm now wondering if I should have just a) ignored him or b) accepted his compliment graciously. A part of me then wonders whether it was a backhanded ploy to put me in my place.

What are your thoughts on this?

Hmm, I think a comment about your appearance in response to a political tweet is quite patronising. However, I think I'd have replied "thank you, X, any thoughts about my tweet?" Or similar. But either way he showed his true colours with the "feminism disease" comment.

It was incredibly patronising.

Perhaps he's too thick to think up a suitable response to your tweet.

misogynist twot. block and move on.

I like your ankles

You did exactly the right thing. That kind of low-level patronising ass-hattery ('there, there dear, don't worry your pretty little head over major political issues') needs to be challenged wherever it rears its ugly head.

YANBU. That would have annoyed me too. But then I've been infected with the feminism disease for decades and I'm refusing treatment.

It probably was entirely his aim. He wanted to either belittle your comment so he could get you riled. Or he's just thick and really does think women want complete strangers giving them 'approval'.

I think you were right to be pissed off. It's like when men add an ie to the end of your name. It's a cutsie little way to undermine you.