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to out a fellow mnetter?

13 replies

applesandpears123 · 16/02/2015 22:19

I was close friends with someone for a number of years through high school but we drifted apart when we were older. Last contact we had there was a bit of a falling out and I said a couple of things I regret. I believe she blocked me on facebook and I no longer have her number so have never been able to apologise. Anyway I saw a few threads on here by a particular poster and they rang a bell. I looked at this person's posting history and there are numerous things which tally with what I know about her. I'm pretty confident it's her. Would it be wrong of me to contact her? It has been several years since we spoke but we used to be extremely close.

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KingJoffreyObviouslyWatchesHol · 16/02/2015 22:20

Yes. She blocked you. Move on.

DoItTooJulia · 16/02/2015 22:22

I would DM her because she may want to change her username if you have figured out her real identity.

She can always ignore you if she doesn't want to talk to you.

ChestyTheSnowman · 16/02/2015 22:23

Yes you would. Move on.

MyMilkshakesBetterThanFours · 16/02/2015 22:23

Oy vey! Move on. It would be weird to contact her through mn. Sorry it still bugs you though, i hate that - try to let it go

FightOrFlight · 16/02/2015 22:24

Why not just 'out' yourself here and invite her to PM you if she wants to get the friendship going again.

MuttersDarkly · 16/02/2015 22:24

Out her ? Yes. Unreasonableness in large and massive globs of unspeakable lack of reason.

Sending a PM and seeing if

a) it really is the right person.

b) she might be receptive to maybe tentively giving it a second chance.. or not.

seems reasonable.

But then.. I am not sure if I myself would fancy a blast from the past. However I tend to approach the rare red blob on my inbox like an unexploded bomb in case it's my bloody mother tracking me down. So perhaps I don't have the most mainstream perspective on the matter.

manicinsomniac · 16/02/2015 22:25

contacting her isn't the same as outing her. I thought you were going to tell everyone things about her that she'd posted here for a moment!

No, I don't think YWBU. At best, you could rekindle a friendship and at worst she ignores you. She might want to know you know who she is even if she doesn't want to be in touch then she can change her username.

AddToBasket · 16/02/2015 22:26

Don't out her. What do you want though? To be friends again?

squoosh · 16/02/2015 22:27

Send her a PM.

Someone tried to semi out me last week, they made winky allusions that they knew who I was. They were wrong though.

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applesandpears123 · 16/02/2015 22:27

By outing her I meant sending a private message saying who I am and giving her the option to reply. If she doesn't then I would leave it at that. She was a really good friend to me for a long time and I kind of miss having her in my life. Perhaps I need to just get over it though.

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Starlightbright1 · 16/02/2015 22:27

I had someone who did this to me..A few places she knew I went...It meant I had to change my user name as the reason I blocked her was I had nothing to say.

I felt stalked so had to name change all over the place

SASASI · 16/02/2015 22:28

No harm in sending a private message. Good luck!

kilmuir · 16/02/2015 22:29

private message her.. whats the worse can happen

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