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AIBU?

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AIBU to be absolutely flabbergasted that there are people who think this is acceptable?

77 replies

ArghMeToes · 15/02/2015 17:25

I'm on a train. The guy behind me is watching some kind of sports match on a tablet. I travel a lot by train and often, mostly at the weekends, there are people with gadgets that play films or TV and they don't put their earphones in. Slightly separate issue from having the earphones up too loud - that's annoying but a part of life, however to not even try to mute the noise by just playing your TV show to the whole carriage? Fuming.

When I was 19 (and too shy to turn around and politely ask someone to keep it down) I had to endure Dora the Explorer at full volume from Penzance to London whilst the child's parents read their own book.

AIBU? Is it acceptable not to put earphones in? Am I missing a trick?

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Koalafications · 15/02/2015 22:12

YANBU.

This is very anti-social. I hate it when I can hear someone's music through their headphones, this is unbelievable.

I'm really shocked that this goes on.

ARoomWithoutAView · 15/02/2015 22:19

I travel a lot on Virgin and the crew do take this very seriously. On one Friday night trip a guy was very drunk and started abusing all the passengers. I reported him some 20 mins away from my stop, and on arrival two police officers were waiting on the platform and boarded the carriage. I am not sure what happened, but I can guess. On another occasion, a group of parents allowed their children the free run of carriages, climbing over them, and lots of overt "you have to let them be free spirits you know" comments to the other passengers. I just looked at those kids and felt they would not have a clue on how to socially interact for the rest of their lives.

FryOneFatManic · 15/02/2015 22:33

It's all right putting headphones in, but I've had someone asking me to turn my music down because they could hear it, even with the headphones in.

I had to turn my music off; being partly deaf meant I needed the volume high enough to actually hear.

Luckily, I've recently discovered headphones that are compatible with the T loop in the hearing aids, so I'll get some. I'll then be able to have the music really loud (for me) and no one else will even hear it

pullthecracker · 15/02/2015 22:37

YANBU, we had an entire flight to Crete last year ruined by two children watching cartoons loudly on iPads the whole way. My dc's watched films too, but with earphones on! It's just rude!

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 15/02/2015 22:43

This is why I book the quiet carriage now. I actually look forward to the peace and quiet, watching shit telly on my ipad (with my headphones on), having a doze and nobody irritating me.

Helps I leave the dc with dh of course.

YANBU op.

MojaveWanderer123 · 15/02/2015 22:52

Well at least he wasn't watching porn on his tablet with no headphones

AntiHop · 15/02/2015 22:53

Yanbu. Just can't bear it when people do this. Drives me crazy.

flipchart · 15/02/2015 22:58

Three weeks ago I was on a 4 hour train journey acorss France. For the first two hours everything was normal. There was a guy sat across the aisle with his young daughter. Most people were dozing when the wanker got his iPod out and connected it to a speaker and really didn't give a shit that it was loud! Just so, I guess, entitled that he could do what he wanted, never mind the other dozen or so people that were sharing the same space!

yummumto3girls · 15/02/2015 23:12

Hate this, they really should stop selling alcohol on trains aswell. Travel on long distance services quite regularly and fed up of ending up sitting next to some drunk. Once also had the pleasure of sitting next to a group of kids from boarding school whose parents/carers felt that it was acceptable for them to run around, one had a pet rat in a cage, he kept getting it out and dropping it!!

The group of squaddies is outrageous, the police should have been called by the guard. I do feel sorry for the guards though!!

UncleT · 16/02/2015 06:34

YANBU. Point of order though from earlier in the thread - it definitely still isn't OK to do it if 'more than one child' is watching the tablet. In public transport it's simply not acceptable to play music or other media out loud to the whole carriage or bus. It's very inconsiderate.

Eltonjohnsflorist · 16/02/2015 06:53

I generally confront them too, although I haven't had this happen for years- am gobsmacked that passengers think it's ok

BikeRunSki · 16/02/2015 06:58

Headphone spliter

One headphone jack, 2 children. Sorter for less than a fiver.

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat · 16/02/2015 07:06

They have stopped selling alcohol on some trains that travel between Edinburgh and London yummum. It's stated on their website when you try to book. I was that things have got so bad that they have had to do this.

OP is NBU to be annoyed about others' inconsiderate behaviour either. On the rare occasion I use a bus there is always someone playing the music off their phone for everyone's listening irritation pleasure .

LindyHemming · 16/02/2015 07:29

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editthis · 16/02/2015 07:37

they really should stop selling alcohol on trains aswell Ooh, I don't agree with this at all. Long train journeys can (and should) be a pleasure in the right context, why should the behaviour of a few selfish louts change this for everyone? I love that you can buy alcohol on trains, it's so civilised.

The people who are drunk on trains were usually pissed already when they got on, IME.

OP YANBU

Chiggers · 16/02/2015 07:52

Can't get alcohol on trains in NI and can bring your own and drink it on the trains either. TBH the trains are better for it as most people will sit and natter to each other, whether they know each other or not. It's lovely.

Loud TV/music/films on a tablet wouldn't bother me at all. I regularly travel 100 miles back to my home town and always hear kids watching and listening to an iPad/tablet. I usually bring a crossword/arrow word/codeword book with me and zone out.

Chiggers · 16/02/2015 07:53

That should be can't bring your own on the trains

editthis · 16/02/2015 08:14

You sound very Zen, Chiggers! But I'm not sure that it's the lack of alcohol encouraging people to chat to each other?! I think having a G&T in hand is more conducive to a friendly atmosphere, as it signals that it is definitely not a stressed-out commuter journey...

frostyfingers · 16/02/2015 09:35

It drives me nuts - that and stinky food on trains. I was coming back from London a while ago and had someone who opened his takeaway curry and proceeded to slurp that and yabber on the phone for what felt like for ever.

He then got off and left his rubbish on the table - not tidied up at all - for either another passenger to clear away or the poor train staff.

Being typically useless at confrontation I said nothing and just huffed and puffed!

angelos02 · 16/02/2015 09:41

YANBU. People need to realise that other people don't want to listen to their music/conversations etc. To the poster that said they were hard of hearing, you can get noise cancelling headphones that no-one else can hear, regardless of how loud it is. It is just cheap headphones that other people can hear the noise through.

Chiggers · 16/02/2015 11:28

Edit once I get really focussed on a crossword, I can literally not hear anything. It's great, although I don't know how I do it. I just seem to be able to do it. I have been known to sleep on a crowded train with people chatting loudly and blaring their music (mainly teens) at almost full volume and I'm just sitting there nodding off peacefully

Quenelle · 16/02/2015 11:40

YANBU this is what earphones are for.

I bought DS some headphones for a flight when he was two. They were for young children so the volume was limited. So limited in fact that he couldn't hear a thing through them above the aircraft's engines. He still didn't listen to the tablet without though, I would never subject other passengers to three hours of Tom and Jerry on a loop.

grocklebox · 16/02/2015 12:10

I was on a plane recently when the twat in front of me ( a middle aged man who should have known better) had some twatty game on his table, full volume without earphones. It took me a while to work up to it (being terribly polite and all) but getting madder and madder I eventually tapped him on the shoulder and suggested he turn the sound off as no-one else wanted to listen to plants and zombies exploding so loudly. I practically got a round of applause.
And don't get me started on twatty parents giving kids phones to play in restaurants etc at high volume.....

ArcheryAnnie · 16/02/2015 12:14

YANBU. If I have to listen to Peppa Pig one more time on a train while the parents talk above it, I will RUN AMOCK.

(I will say something next time, I promise.)

TheBooMonster · 16/02/2015 12:44

YANBU! I went through a particularly passive aggressive phase when I had to get the train to and from work where I went into Poundland and bought a stack on £1 headphones so that I could 'gift' them to people on the train as it was 'such a shame they couldn't afford headphones' that was perhaps a little unreasonable, but it generally had the desired effect of shaming the person into either turning off what they were listening to or getting out their headphones, I rather surprisingly only got called a bitch on a few occasions!

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