AIBU to think parents need to take responsibility not the school....

[farflungfanny]

Recently moved due to dh's job, which takes him away a lot, I'm a SAHM.
Listening to some of the other parents complaining about the school not doing enough for their children. Kids are being disruptive, angry, not listening etc.
A lot of the families have at least one parent away for long periods and a parent at home.
Some families have both parents working away, sometimes at the same time,so children being cared for by grandparents, staying in school longer etc.
They don't seem to see the connection of no parent at home means an unhappy child.
I understand that there are plenty functioning families where both parents work and have happy children.

I'm talking about when one or both parents are away for periods of time.
Should it be up to the school to 'treat' these children differently and throw support at them, or should the parents stop blaming the school for failing them and take some responsibility themselves.

Yes. But presumably there is someone at home, the children are not fending for themselves.

I'm not sure what your point is.

I don't get it. What do you mean op? I understand that children need continuity and stability where possible, so a permanent nanny or grandparent or single parent or whatever is fine so long as they get consistency, ie preferably not changing schools every six months, changing childcare etc.

Your post seems obscure.

No parent at home doesn't mean unruly disruptive behaviour is a given.

Usually the grandparent or older sibling or aunt, uncle at home.
I think the not acknowledging that your child might be playing up in school because both his parents are not present hasn't crossed their minds.
The attitude is that the school know our family situation and should be doing what it can to help. All the blame is on the school and what it's not doing. The parents themselves seem to have no responsibility in the well-being of the child.