to feel like there is more to this (work related)

[LilMissSunshine9]

We have a new region head who started recently and yesterday she went on a floor walking meet and greet everyone. She was walking up to everyone at their desk and introducing herself and finding out what they do etc. She started on the left side of the room and working her way round but when it came to me she just ignored me completely, walked past where I sat and introduced herself to my colleague sitting diagonally opposite me. At first I thought perhaps she hadn't seen me and would come back round but she then just carried on meeting the remaining people on my side of the room.

Its really upset me because I can't understand how she could of missed me especially as she was standing opposite me (face on to me) as she was talking to my colleague.

Part me tells me IABU and its nothing and its nothing to do with my race but another part of me just feels like an invisible person whose face doesn't fit so isn't worth knowing.

I know I should go introduce myself but at the same time I feel like why should I, no-one else on the floor had as she spoke to them all.

Try flipping this around - she was probably nervous, anxious to make a good first impression, overwhelmed, wracking her brains for polite work-related small talk to make with everyone, lost track of who she'd spoken to, etc.
She probably thought she'd already spoken to you - takes me ages to 'get' new faces, everyone blurs into one for a while.

Realistically, there's no reason why she would single you out to ignore. I wouldn't worry about it.

What is your race and are you the only person there from a different ethnicity? If not was anyone else 'ignored'?

I am the only asian, there is a nigerian lady but other than that everyone else is 'white'. She spoke to everyone else including the nigerian lady.

Its what I first thought CrystalHaze but its just she walked around every desk area to talk to everyone who were at their desk and I was at my desk too, I know she has spoken to some of the others already but she still stopped to speak to them again.

Just as easy to conclude that she lost track of who she spoke to and that you're so dull LMS9 that you don't stand out from the crowd at all.

Only time will tell if the new person is a prat or snob or whatever.

I highly doubt that as she was making a huge effort to speak to each and every person that she singled you out and intentionally ignored you. She might have been distracted. Did the people around you notice this as you being the only one would have stood out.

Well it's bad that you feel this way. Has stuff happened before there to make you think there might be prejudiced views amongst the management? I'm thinking that if you knew for sure that there wasn't then you wouldn't even think it possible this time?

She did speak to everyone that was at their desks (different if you were away from your desk or not in), I know because I was looking out to see if my manager was off his conference call and so obviously saw her walking around. She spoke to everyone who say behind as its not hard to hear her introducing herself so many times.

My colleague asked if she had spoken to me but everyone was working at their desks so focussed on what they were doing so no no-one explicitly noticed she hadn't introduced herself to me. There was just me and my colleague at my row of 6 desks.

I used to work in a different department on another floor where my previous manager ignored my concerns I raised with her regarding some bullying from a fellow team member but I have a fantastic manager now in my current role which I have been in for over a year so I wouldn't say I harbour prejudiced views against management.

I think it seems a very strange conclusion to come to based on this evidence....

How many people on your floor altogether? Missing one person out of 20 or more versus missing one person out of 6 is very different.

I'd honestly say that she was overwhelmed and nervous - first day in a new job, doing a very public 'meet and greet', everyone keen to impress upon you what a great employee they are - makes me anxious just thinking about it.

The thing is, you can't go back and change the way things happened, you can't discover anything further over the weekend, so be kind to yourself - assume for now that it was an unfortunate oversight, and see how things pan out over the next few weeks and then decide if she seems to be singling you out.

For all you know, she's sitting at home thinking 'shit, I missed Lilmisssunshine out! I hope she doesn't think there's more to it!' and she's planning to apologise first thing Monday.

Don't let it spoil your weekend

She has been here for over a week and there were approx 15 people in today but your right I will just stop overthinking and not let it get to me.

15 people isn't many....I read Op thinking huge big open plan office loads of people quick flit around.

I can see why you found it more noticeable....as pp said don't let it play on your mind....if you feel ignored again then address it.