AIBU to call DP on his 'funny little ways'?

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My DP over the years has developed some funny little habits that in themselves are not bad, but added up actually cause me a lot of frustration and and make me want to stab him
Today he burnt his toast for the millionth time. he put the bread in the toaster, and walked away. When he came back it had popped and gone cold, so he put it in again and walked away. When he came back it was burnt. Usually he swears a lot, puts it in the bin and starts again. Today it was the fault of the mysterious Mr Somebody who keeps changing the temperature dial. He got very cross when I said it was U of him to expect everyone to do their toast/bagels/etc at the same temp just because he couldn't be bothered to check it.
There are myriad similar things that he does; WIBU to call him on them when they occur?

My DH does the toaster thing.
I hate it and he is lucky not to have it thrown into the bath with him tbh.
I think its controlling and utterly unreasonable to rant about the toaster setting that other ppl use. Its so easy to check and change it as required. But no! We must all keep the toaster on the setting he deems appropriate. "Who's been changing the toaster setting?" "Fuck off and learn how to make toast toast properly, twunt"

boobz based on that last one he might have three wives

we have washing basket in bedroom. bathroom is next to kitchen. every morning dp gets in the shower and discards his boxers next to the washer.

i am a bit to blame for this as i have inherited my washing ways from my dm and do loads in like pinks / reds, blacks, whites etc. theres only two of us so i tend do do a wash a day. could be a few days till the white cycle. after football all colours just get dumped there.

ahhh.

But why on earth would anyone turn the dial so that the toaster burns the toast !!!!!!!
This isn't a funny little way, burnt toast is a serious ishoo, it is the bane of my life.
I don't expect people to eat normally toasted bread if they don't want to, if they want burnt toast then fine , but I do get a bit sweaty and huffy if I forget to check.

Sweary not sweaty damn it.

We have one of those toasters with four slots and two sets of knobs and dials. DH has one side set to his favoured levels and I have the other. We also each have our own duvets so that we can be individually temperature controlled. We never argue .

Oh gosh yes the bowels timed perfectly to needing to leave them somehow being late is all my fault

I could kill alone fir the snoring and the fact that washing up is left til 11 clock at night.

Just fucking do it all in one go then it's done. stop playing jenga with all the stuff on the draining board or spreading it out over the entire evening "leaving it to drain"

inevitably I have to finish it off it he morning cos 6 hours isn't long enough apparently

It's not a temperature dial, it's a time dial. An understanding of this simple fact will prevent any future burnt toast episodes.

Although carabos' toaster sounds like it might have both a temperature and a time dial, which sounds overly complicated.

I just wanted to say that this thread appears in my Active Convos just above one titled 'DH is dying'.

I've said it before and it seems even more relevant now, people posting that they want to harm or even kill their partners because of such trivialities as snoring or burning the toast is tasteless and in this case grossly insensitive.

Domestic violence ain't funny.

Sorry if I have ruined the humour on this thread but I'm sick of seeing these posts.
Imagine if we were reading them on a lads' website. People would be up in arms.

HIBU. Cold toast is lush - then all the thick Lurpak sits on the top. Delicious.

It's not a time dial. No-one has the job of calibrating toaster dials. It's a bimetallic strip which curves when it heats up. The dial determines when the strip has moved enough to lose contact so the current stops and the toast pops up. Every toaster is slightly different, so you have to experiment to find your preferred setting.

Mine washes the dishes now and then. Only the fronts, mind. I'm sick telling him that plates, pans, bowls and trays have backs/outside too. He never wipes down the bunkers, wrings out the cloth or washes the suds away. And he leaves the dish towel in a damp heap. And he gets crumbs in the butter . Step away from the kitchen MrMuddling or I will not be held responsible...

What the hell are 'bunkers' in a kitchen context??

Bunkers=worktops in Fife. Every days a schoolday, eh UncleT?

That's interesting, RachelWatts! And slightly annoying, I've had many an argument about this and have always been convinced of my rightness.

YABU. Because my DP always pulls me up on my funny little ways. It drives me mad. And I don't do them on purpose! Leaving lights on, cupboard doors open, wet towels on the floor. I do try! God I'm annoying aren't i!

Love my DP to bits but he does the following:

Always leaves the washing powder/liquid out - it goes under the sink.
Comes in from the supermarket & leaves plastic bags on the counter - they also go under the sink
Walks straight past the coat hooks and shoe rack at the front door and chucks his coat on the sofa/kitchen counter/dining table and leaves his shoes in the bathroom. Then later moans that there's 18 pairs of Adidas trainers all over the house and can't find the specific ones he's looking for. Nor his coat. After insisting that we have a specified area for such articles.
Doesn't open his bank statements then moans that there's lots of paperwork on the kitchen table.

I am well aware that I have my own annoying habits

Just muddling....... It nice to see someone using the term "bunker"
I've never known anyone else to use it , except my Mum and my Granny. My Granny was Scottish so perhaps it's a Scottish term. Although I use it to mean draining board rather than work top.

RachelWatts - I find your explanation puzzling. It may be true, but if the toaster works like that, wouldn't the following happen: you use the toaster for the first time, the strip eventually heats to the point where it cuts off; if you then immediately push the toast down again and don't change the setting, the strip would still be hot so very quickly it would return to the cut off point, and the toast would pop up almost straightaway. I'm sure my toaster doesn't behave like that.

Mine has proper tantrums, every time we discuss something he has to run and tell his parents! He snorts in the morning, doesn't do his hair unless told, doesn't brush his teeth unless told, sends thousands of texts to me and everyone daily which is so bad one of his friends fell out with him duevto excessive texts! He stresses about everything, can barely cope with basics, doesn't listen at all so always gets the wrong end of the stick! Don't know how I do it

Cheap, old toasters have a bimetallic strip, modern toasters have a timer circuit - A capacitor charges through a resistor, and when it reaches a certain voltage it cuts off the power to the electromagnet. The spring immediately pulls the two slices of bread up. You vary the resistance and hence the time taken to charge the capacitor by twiddling the knob.

It is a personal choice to be irritated by someone else.

I have to tell myself that very regularly.

Thanks, Somewhere, you sound like you know what you are talking about and your explanation makes sense.