Is this bullying or am I being precious ?

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Every day for the last fortnight DD has come home complaining that a child in her class has hit/kicked and now flashed her.

DD is in Yr 1 and there has been issues with this child since Reception. It's not just my child he hits as when asked if he has hit/kicked anyone else DD always says yes.

I've raised this with her teacher last month however I'm being told 'X has an attendant to watch him on the playground and nothing has been reported back.' But that she would keep an eye out for it.

DD has today come home a slightly red mark on her back where she said he has been hit today by him.

I'm at my wits end, is this usual for kids this age to come home with this many marks and scrapes ? I'm used to scraped knees from falling over but each day now I'm hearing 'Simon (not his name) hit /kicked me today.'

And I've just realised I've called the child X then given him a fake name - please excuse it - it's been a long day !

I would say it's not bullying as your DD is not being singled out. It sounds like the boy has problems.

However, I don't think you are being precious at all! I would waft to know wheat more they were planning on doing to protect the other children.

It's quite fair for you to go in & say your child has a lots of issues with Simon and please can they supervise more closely. Emphasise the problems your child has, everything you have to say is about your child's impaired experience.

Don't be surprised to learn that your child eagerly seeks Simon out & gives him quite a few scrapes back, too.

The attendant is obviously not doing their job. Flashing is really not OK and your DD needs to be taught that someone will listen and do something. Make a fuss.

My BF is going through a very similar thing with her DD. Write down everything that has happened and the date it happened and take it to the teacher. The child at their school is also picking on several children.

Go back and make a formal appointment to talk to the teacher.

Take it up formally, one of my DD's had a similar child in her class and ended up with 5 stitches in her scalp cowering under a table with her best friend aged 7. The poor child had complex needs that were being exacerbated by mainstream education. However if no formal complaints are made the school have little evidence of the difficulties. Plus your child is entitled to feel safe at school.

Imo it's not bullying as that's usually targeted at one or two children. It sounds more like the boy has behaviour problems. There was a child in my dd's reception class that regularly hit/kicked/bit/punched the teachers and other children. I'd spoken to the teacher as at least twice a week dd came home saying "x hit me" or "x bit y". The final straw for me was when the child went on a rampage and hurt a dozen children, strangled dd and kicked the teacher.

I went to the teacher with the other parents and said that something needed to be done now or in be going to the head, governors and lea. The teacher told us that she needed parents to complain to her so that she could go to the head and get something done.

Your dd has a right to go to school and not be hurt by another child. It's normal for the odd incident with young children as they lack impulse control, but when it's the same child hurting the others then something needs to be done.