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To dread new neighbours next door?

41 replies

fabuleux · 11/02/2015 18:34

All my adult life I've lived in properties that adjoin others either a flat or semi detached.
A year ago I moved into a lovely rented 2-bed house, with a couple next door who are about my age. There are so lovely and quiet, can hear normal neighbour noise like tv on low but no noise during night or loud music etc. now they tell me they're moving out tomorrow Sad
I am dreading who moves in as I seem to have so much bad luck with neighbours. Argh Sad

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BurningBridges · 11/02/2015 18:37

Us too. We had same quiet if odd family for about 17 years, then new people moved in and they were odd and quiet too, now they are leaving - can I go for the hat trick?!

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fabuleux · 11/02/2015 18:42

Fingers crossed for you burningbridges!
Please be nice please be nice!!

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skylark2 · 11/02/2015 18:47

I dreaded it when our elderly neighbour died.

New neighbours are lovely too

KatoPotato · 11/02/2015 18:48

Sold sign just popped up next door... I have the FEAR!

JollyFrog · 11/02/2015 18:53

I feel your worries! The house next door to us is rented and for a while had quite a high turnover of tenants,
There was a single lady for a long time who was lovely but moved out as she could no longer afford the rent,

We then had some students Hmm who played badly a range of musical instruments at all hours,

Then we had a couple but they were forever rowing, shouting and screaming at all hours. The man left and the lady moved in her mum,dad,and 2 siblings, boy they were strange. Very protective of his parking space (think standing out the front in just a towel!) peeing in the back garden, fruit machines and jukeboxes in a tent in the garden Shock
They they did a flit one day and never saw them again

Now we have a lady with 2 teenage sons, very nice, quiet and friendly. Let's hope they stay for a while!!
Good luck OP!

expatinscotland · 11/02/2015 18:55

Fingers crossed! I dread it, too. I don't mind noise except loud bass and/or parties.

bigbluebus · 11/02/2015 18:56

We have an empty house next to us . We are also dreading the arrival of new neighbours. Having lived here over 20 years we have always been lucky and can't help thinking that by the law of averages we are due a 'bad lot'.
We do know the estae agent though and have told him to make sure he doesn't sell to anyone we wouldn't approve of Grin

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fabuleux · 11/02/2015 19:08

Yy to the loud bass and parties. I have memories of being in a ground floor flat and young single girl above us playing loud horrid thumping music. Actually got council involved in the end with a formal complaint. It was awful and was so happy when she moved out I could have cried!

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Dogsmom · 11/02/2015 19:21

Before I had DD I always said I'd move if any kids moved in next door or if the couple there decided to have a baby and I meant it Grin

It's normal to not like change and to worry about the neighbours from hell moving in.

AwkwardSquad · 11/02/2015 19:41

In the same position. 'Sold' sign has just gone up after the house has been empty for a year. It needs to be lived in or the property will deteriorate but please, please let the new neighbours be quiet. I have a horrible feeling it's gone to buy-to-let, and we have very thin walls.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 11/02/2015 19:59

Think everyone has this fear. I was glad to see the back of the previous ndn but worried about what would be moving in. Fortunately a single woman bought it and she's lovely. She works away a lot so hardly ever see her either.

AntiHop · 11/02/2015 20:57

My quiet and very nice neighbours are planning to move soon and I'm dreading it too.

Daffodilium · 11/02/2015 21:01

This short thread already confirms my suspicions about homeowners being heavily prejudiced against renters Hmm

AlmaMartyr · 11/02/2015 21:02

I worry too. Current neighbour is elderly, deaf and quiet. He doesn't disturb us, and is a lovely helpful man to boot, and we don't disturb him. He doesn't have any plans to move that I know of but I really worry about who we'll get when he does.

WorraLiberty · 11/02/2015 21:05

This short thread already confirms my suspicions about homeowners being heavily prejudiced against renters Hmm

How many people on this thread, have said whether they own or rent? Confused

Comito · 11/02/2015 21:06

Daffo That's a bit unfair. Most people couldn't give a toss whether their ndn is renting or owning. I suspect the concern is that if a problem ndn moved in as a renter, the owner wouldn't be bothered about sorting it out and the tenants wouldn't care about maintaining good relationships with neighbours. Not an assumption, just a worry.

WorraLiberty · 11/02/2015 21:09

It's not like renters don't have problem owners or renters next door to them.

Pinkje · 11/02/2015 21:11

I think daffodillium has a point - when we rented we did not look after the garden as well as we would've done if we'd owned it.

WorraLiberty · 11/02/2015 21:13

But lots of owners don't look after their gardens particularly well including me

Babyroobs · 11/02/2015 21:13

We are in a semi and we didn't really get on with the previous neighbours and were glad when they went , however I didn't relaise just how quiet they were until our new neighbours moved in ! They have 2 small boys who's bedroom is adjacent to mine, they scream a high pitch scream a lot and wake me up in the early hours of most mornings screaming for their parents ( who seem to ignore them, probably in the hope they will go back to sleep!). The parents are nice people but gosh do those kids have loud voices. I would never dream of saying anything, just hoping they quieten down as they get older. Their elder sister comes round to play with my dd and openly admits she does so to get away from the noise !

MaryWestmacott · 11/02/2015 21:19

when we rented before DCs, the flat below us was also rented and was identically laid out, so the main bedroom was directly below ours - a late 20's couple moved in, seemed nice enough - however they had loud, but thankfully swift, sex every Sunday at around 9am. I assume that was when the alarm went off or else they got all excitable by the Andrew Marr show...

Never heard them at any other time of the week and they otherwise were rather quiet and perfect neighbours. It was just 'scheduled sex' thing that seemed odd.

chrome100 · 11/02/2015 21:21

We have a ten bed student house next door to us so we get the fear every September! So far it's mostly been ok but last year was horrendous! I had to sleep in the understands cupboard as it was the only "room" on the other side of the house.

FantasticRik · 11/02/2015 21:22

I understand OP. We have previously had loud, inconsiderate neighbours who argued all week and partied all weekend. We now have a lovely older lady next door who we have a lovely relationship with. Would feel exactly as you do if she ever moved.

I will keep my fingers crossed for perfect NDNs for you (whether renters or owners... )

nooyearnooname · 11/02/2015 21:22

We have just moved into a smallish new build and discovered just before we moved that next door had been sold too. I was hugely relieved to meet the new neighbours on the day we moved in and they seemed lovely and normal. I thought it was just me who got super stressed about potentially noisy neighbours, I don't feel so weird now Wink

fluffyraggies · 11/02/2015 21:32

We've been the dreaded rental neighbors moving in. Our neighbors told us they'd been so anxious about who would move in next door to them. We lived there for 5 years and became really good friends. When we left we were the lovely neighbors leaving the house empty and the neighbors to worry all over again. Sadly this time their fears have been confirmed and the new occupants are very strange apparently.

YANBU OP. I hope you get good ones.