AIBU to think don't cry poverty for your kids and then entitle yourself to everything?

[mrsdicaprio]

I know it's Facebook related so really I should just or delete, but there's the odd few mums on there that do this and one in particular just makes me .

She has a ds of 1, and has spent the last year crying poverty on Fb selling pages for one reason or another asking for free toys and clothes for him (but only the best) and being really specific about what she needs because she can't afford it and money's so tight.
Sometimes she's grabby enough to find luxury items online, post links to them tagging friends or family members in asking for them or strongly hinting to buy her it. And then she brags about it when it gets delivered, because money is always too tight for baby to have anything ever or go anywhere ever.
Yet the amount of money this woman brags about spending on herself as "treats" just makes me gasp. We are talking hundreds of pounds on dresses, wigs (she likes dressing up as a princess), accessories, tickets to places, I just don't know how they then have the cheek to ask for second hand toys they need more than anyone else after bragging about spending so much .

I think you got it right in your first sentence. If it bugs you delete her.

Delete her or challenge her on it

YANBU I hate it. I know a woman, not quite that bad but goes on about how she has all this wonderful stuff and how she has had a lovely homecooked meal but her dcs eat chicken nuggets almost every night an sometimes she comes to me to fee them as she apparently cant afford it. I refuse now as she works, claims disability for mh probs and is on far more than me as a single sahm on benefits...yet my dcs get homecooked meals every night and yes most of my furniture is second hand but I refuse to go out and buy something expensive when that money could go on my dcs!.......sorry rant over lol

There are certain people who always put themselves first and have a great sense of entitlement regarding what they feel the deserve from life.

They have often made poor choices in life but again it's not something they learn from.

Delete. Block. Move on.

She may not even notice you've gone! (I don't mean that in a bad way, just that if she is so far up her own bum, she may not notice and/or get the hump with you. Win win )

She likes dressing up as a princess

She likes dressing up as a princess

YANBU Op but seriously block, delete and move on.

Coco yes, my face went a bit like that but ... to each their own?

Cocolepew, exactly that. She sounds mad as a hatter. Maybe she should put a hold on the wig-fetish and buy something useful..like clothes for her baby. Actually she sounds like a fantasist, or actually maybe she's just really clever - crying poverty on Facebook to manipulate expensive freebies from all the dorks who continue to buy things for her while spending all the cash she's saved on essential baby items on luxury dresses and, err, wigs. Wh? don't these morons realise what's going on and tell her 'the jig is up'? You noticed, mrs dc so why not the rest? Could it be that there's some kind of car crash face booking going on? By that I mean maybe this woman's a bit cuckoo but that's the fun of reading her page I guess? And by buying her stuff it makes people feel they're part of her sad sad story and they're helping her and the baby? Like sooty said, if it bugs u so much why entertain her by following her (I suspect self-obsessed) Facebook crapola. Hmmmm???

I know I know. She has a really good job, well better than most of the people she takes from so I think that makes it more irritating, but maybe just because I feel sorry for her son and the attitude she has towards him. She spends more time, money and efforts trying to become the little mermaid or whichever disney princess is "in" at the time and there's a little boy there that is just palmed off on everybody else to raise.
I'm not a young mum myself and she's older than me, at least 30, it just makes me .

Yes I should delete, I really should. Don't want to offend hence doing an Aibu to vent my feelings and chance whether I am actually being unreasonable or not. She is sort of related (not immediately) to dh so wouldn't want to cause offence.

Pretty much all of what goes on Facebook is shameless self promotion and really should be treated as such. In the old days we used to write our personal thoughts down and get angry when people read them. Now we put all our personal business in a public forum and get angry when people don't read them!

This woman is a prime example - she is using Facebook and her son for validation. It may or may not be the truth of her life but it's what she feels will get the greatest response.

I think if her posts are understandably grating on you then remove her from your newsfeed. It's brain clutter you can clearly do without.

Does she post pictures of herself dressed as a Princess?

< hopes the answer is yes >

You can choose not to see her posts without her ever knowing? I've done that to a few people. Life is too short for irritation, but with these types it's also too short for the drama a formal delete would cause, too.

I've figured out how to hide her. Out of sight out of mind. . .

Yes fight... she does, and videos of her singing the songs. We are talking a woman of 30 at the very least. Very over the top could be working at disney effort. Boasts about the hundreds of pounds for the wigs and asks people to splash out hundreds on the dresses but her son doesn't have toys or anything

This sounds slightly like it may be a case of sour grapes to me. While it is uncouth to be boastful about the gifts which one receives, one should not be judgemental about how over people spend money, both hard earned or otherwise. I would advise the OP to move on with her life, and not sweat the small stuff .

Cheers!

I'm loving your work tonight Martin

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