to feel really upset..

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That Dh has just told me he's not madly in love with me anymore?
Our relationship has its ups and downs, been so close to divorce so many times but always pulled through it.
We've never questioned our love for each other but always found it hard to see eye to eye and get along.
He can be really emotionally abusive and I feel trapped so it shouldn't really come as a shock but hearing him say the words has left me so empty.
He says he still cares about me but isn't in love with me like that anymore.
Divorce is imminent, I know that now more than ever but we have 2 dc's and I just feel so lost.

I've got nothing useful to say but
I'm sorry you're going through this.

Thanks sn00p

YANBU to feel upset but you could be so much happier if you were away from him. I hope things work out well for you.

Sorry to hear this OP. I'm in a similar position so I know how you feel. Hope you're ok x

I feel like I should have seen it coming but it just hurt so much when he actually said it out loud. Ds is only 20 months and dd is 5. I'm a SAHM and don't even know where to start in terms of getting my life together.

Sorry you're in the same boat sanity

That sounds really hard to hear - I can't imagine what you are going through, but I'm sure you will find a way through to the other side. Have you got support from family or friends? Maybe it's time to start the wheels in motion and begin the process of freeing yourself from this relationship. from me too.

No friends, mu mum isn't too far so could talk to her although we're not very close anymore.

No one stays "madly in love". That's the early stage of a relationship. If you are lucky and you are both mature and sensible, it develops into a long term love. There will be ups and downs (particularly when the children are small, which is your situation) but if he was a good, strong man, the commitment would carry you through. Sadly, you've picked one that isn't up to it. It's not you, it's him!

So, to practicalities. Legally, he has to support the children financially. You will also be legally entitled to a home that can accommodate the children. Your next steps should be to consult a solicitor if you can afford it or to do your own research if not. There are lots of ebooks on divorce plus lots of info on forums such as this.

Sorry to hear this mn is great for practical advice,lots of people will help with what you should do. I just wanted to say I'm sorry.

I'm so sorry. I hope this is the start of a happier life for you. I'm sure it's a scary time right now.