To ask you to share the ways in which your kids are amazing

[Mrsstarlord]

This is sort of a TAAT but hopefully a positive take on it (because some of the posts on there have actually brought me to tears, but thats another story).

My youngest son is kind, funny, considerate, hard working, has the most beautiful smile and warmest hugs. He also struggles like fuck to cope with life because of complex learning difficulties but manages through determination, self belief and optimism and faith in the world around him.

My oldest son is thoughtful, imaginative, loving and sensitive - he is affected greatly by the things around him and manages to find a way through. He is growing up and finding his way in the world and its great to see him becoming more independent.

I love my kids, they are bloody ace and we are lucky to have them in our lives.

DS(7) wanted to go as a seahorse for carnival (we live in Spain and Carnial is big news here, next week they'll go to school in costume every day, even the teachers will be in costume next week). His reason to choose this was because male seahorses carry the eggs and "they can feel the babies in their belly". He also gives the sweetest hugs, he'll ask for a hug at any time, just out of the blue.
DD1 (10) is a great dancer, enormously empathic (she suffers for everything that is wrong in the world, and still there's so much she doesn't know about, my poor baby), beautiful and clever. But her heart is her best feature.
DD2 (2)is the sharpest baby I've ever seen. And she's lovely when she sings.
The three are full of love.

Oh AND my 2 yo loves cooking. She can make a pizza like no one else at her age, stretches the dough for the base, puts on the tomato sauce, the cheese and the olives... lovely!

Love hearing about your kids. Without bringing a downer, a poster was advocating eugenics, I wanted to share how fabulous and loved our kids are regardless of ability / health etc and you have done that. Thank you (I know it flies in the face of AIBU though)

DS is a tiny genius. (He is nearly 2) He wanted to wear his dinosaur pyjamas tonight but they were on the radiator drying so I told him he couldn't as they were wet. He considered this briefly, went and fetched a muslin cloth and attempted to dry them - excellent try DS.

He is also a tiny scumbag, my TV now features a perspex bandit screen to protect it from his target practice. He has a killer throwing arm.

DD has somehow remained remarkably human despite being a teenager. Her eyebrows looked a bit peculiar this evening but she unloaded the washing machine for me before she went out because she knows it's my least favourite job and she bought me chocolate earlier.

I love my children, they are both weirdos, I think they take after me.

DD1, who is 3 towards the end of the month (sob!) is outright hilarious. I carried her on my back into town today and she was chattering in my ear about the conversation two seagulls she'd spotted must've been having: 'It's cold out here mate, we need to find somewhere to go and warm up, how about that tree? We'll have to travel a while. Should we do a worm dance first?' Etc etc etc all in this absurd little gruff voice. It was brilliant. She's also whip-smart. A ridiculously advanced vocabulary, learning to read and her emotional intelligence makes my heart burst.

DD2 is 8 months old. She is the roundest little cherub I have ever known, her giggles are utterly infectious and it gives me such joy to watch her observing the world around her. She's always thinking. It's a strange but lovely thing to see. The way she adores her big sister (and vice versa) is just the best thing, too.

Lovely to read these posts and add my own. Will try to hang on to this good feeling when they are invariably making me tear my hair out again soon!

DS (3.5) is a sensitive, brave, funny, incredibly loud little chap who has been amazing while I have been struggling with this pregnancy, he regularly sings at my tummy and brings me drinks of squash when I feel sick, I feel like the luckiest mommy in the world.

My DD1 is amazing, in the last 5 years she has dealt with my cancer, her father's sudden death and then, horribly, her battle with Hodgkin's Lymphoma. She has come through smiling and is now working about 100 hours a week as a junior doctor planning on being an oncologist. She is amazing and last week phoned me up to ask how you make poached eggs!!!

DD (5) is such a happy girl. Always smiling. She is clever, giggly and tackles things head on. She spends too much time in childcare but never complains, even although she's had a difficult time with a girl in a year above her who has been unkind and that she is scared of. She is still smiling!

DD1 (6) is the most creative procrastinators I have ever met; Her attempts to get out of going to bed are amazing. She's thoughtful, caring and so happy to receive any gifts no matter how small, even a patterned nail-file. She's beginning to have a dry sense of humour. I was giving her a pep-talk about saying 'thank you' for any Xmas gifts, even if she didn't like it or understand what it was. She added 'unless it's a bomb, I won't take a bomb.'

DD2 (4) is happy and cheeky in equal measures. She loves hugs and kisses and smells comforting. She sits on me for her bed-time story and I smell her hair and can go into quite a trance and have to remind myself to read. I can see her imagination emerging (I love creative writing); this morning she came and curled up next to me and was moving her arms and talking to whatever was in her mind, ignoring me even though I was 4 inches from her.

Dd1 is so caring and sensitive to others needs.
Dd2 is amazingly brave, no matter the situation.
Ds is the happiest most handsome little boy I've ever known, and all three are hilarious in their own ways- making us smile every day.

One of my DC can burp the whole alphabet, it's comes in very handy when answering the phone to cold callers!

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Your family has really been through the mill. So sorry to hear that.

Well if you think you love your kids wait till the grandkids come along. I love them all so much, and all so clever and talented, even the 17 year old with autism who is an excellent artist and has even had a book published by his school.

Then there's another five to fit in making the youngest nearly five.

Three go to school and three are home edded. Just am amazing bunch of people and I'm so proud they belong to me.

My kids and their partners are a great bunch too.

I've been well blessed and I get to see all of them a couple of times a week at least ;-)

You remember that little scrap of a baby boy who you said would never walk talk or hold a pencil, and you advised me to go away and have another one. And you said that on a scale of one to 10 his brain damage was a 7.
He's going to university this year to read behavioural science, on an unconditional offer. And he walks (kind of), talks (perfectly) and his handwriting is lovely.
And the other one you told me to have, she's 13 now and every day I see more signs of the woman she'll one day be and it's going to be great!

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My dd has Aspergers and dyspraxia and Learning difficulties and dyscalculia. She now has depression and anxiety, OCD and paranoia. Oh and her dad died 4 years ago, when she was just 10 yo!

She is 15, how the hell does she get up every morning and go to school? She HATES it, it's like torture to her. I can't even begin to imagine what she goes through every minute of every day, it is a struggle, for every one of those minutes.

She drives me to distraction, there are times when I think I can't continue to bear the brunt of her raw anger and emotions. I've just hugged her and told her how fucking amazing she is. She really is something else.

My nineteen month old scares me with his intelligence. He can be exhausting with it but it's amazing. He knows over 200 words, can count to ten (including counting out objects not just saying them), knows basic shapes and colours. He has started putting together three to four word combinations such as 'what is this' and is now trying to learn makaton thanks to Mr Tumble. When he wants to know the sign he turns to us makes the hand signal for sign and says 'you sign' and tells us the word he wants looking up.

I'm not daft but I'm not sure how I produced such a scary clever kid!

What a lovely thread. My 3 are the most bizarre combinations of what has gone before them in mine and DH's family.

DD1, 9, is absolute in her thinking, has a huge sense of what is right and just, can articulate her thinking exceptionally well and can defend her point of view like a Mumsnet pro. She is quirky has a great sense of style, is serious and thoughtful. She has dyslexia which is hardly worth mentioning because she copes so beautifully with it. I actually almost see it as positive some days.

Dd2 is a kind hearted, fun loving, live life to the full, always optimistic but still a bit of a worrier. She makes friends everywhere she turns yet she has this imdestructive bond with her friends she met as an infant. She is loyal to the end.

DS is a tyrant in the best possible way. He runs around like a tornado. He barely speaks yet then he will say a word perfect sentence to one of us like he does it every minute. He loves me so fiercely that I am his sun, moon and stars. He loves DH too but not as much he is a complete messer and joker and has a totally infectious laugh. He has been cracking jokes since he was tiny most of which only he gets but the whole room will laugh with him.

God I am so grateful they are fantastic children.

Thanks for this thread OP I have enjoyed writing this down.

DS (5) is just fantastic and so resilient.

He hasn't had the easiest life so far health wise and is now being assessed for autism too but he is generally really happy no matter what.

He has had yet another evening in a and e tonight yet has managed to make the staff smile even though he feels awful. He is a little star

Thankyou everyone. Your kids all sound bloody amazing, I'm reading this in bed with a smile on my face. Even if our kids struggle they offer so much more than they take, we are so lucky to have them (and dare I say that you all sound like they are lucky to have you too)

My 4yo DD is a really sweet kid. She is very thoughtful and cares so much about other people. Her favourite thing is drawing, and she spends hours a day drawing sometimes. Her teacher reckons she is gifted. I think she's amazing but I'm not sure I'd agree she is gifted at 4. My favourite thing about her is her crazy chicken dance.

My 2yo DD has a hard time. She is very very rough when she plays and toddler groups are a nightmare. The other kids run away and the parents tut at me. I tell her off and walk home in tears, wishing she would calm down and be nice like the others. Despite this, she always says thank you mama, I'm so happy, I love the boys and girls.

I feel like she's on another planet to me but I love her completely and unconditionally.

Thorny, I understand totally where you are coming from. I hated toddler groups until my friend pointed out that she had similar experiences where all the other kids were playing beautifully together except for her son who sat under a table eating crayons. He's now a very senior manager at M&S (national level management) - your Dd sounds very loving

thornyhousewife DD2 (4), of the never ending smiles above, is another thug. We had to leave the playzone last week because she threw balls at a under-1's head (in play, not maliciously) and refused to apologise. As she's older I now impose immediate sanctions very quickly and firmly (she lost her play, and the Octonauts when we got home). She seemed confused when I explained that she hadn't played very nicely. I don't think it had occurred to her that other children don't play with exuberance.

Nursery once commented on how the DDs play 'rough and tumble' (aged 2 & 4) with each other and I asked if it were above the range they'd accept in brothers. The staff admitted no it wasn't which led onto me bollocking them for sexism. Apparently girls are supposed to play delicately or perhaps sit in a corner with an embroidery hoop

Maybe you also suffer from an enthusiastic, exuberant, happy child. Oh wait... put that way who wouldn't want to?