Vegtables

[SaucyMare]

We were going to my parnts for a party, my sister and i were throwing for their 25th wedding aniversary. On the drive down we had burgers for dinner in a service station, we knew we would be having service station rubbish on the way home as well. At the party that evening the meal was buffet so no veg there.

My parents were taking the kids out for lunch and i asked them to take the kids somewhere they could have vegtables for their lunch.

My sister told me this week i was annoying with my insistence on veg that my parents had had to go to many places for lunch till they found somewhere that had veg available.

Was i being unreasonable wanting my kids to have 1 vegtable portion in a weekend. My son doesn't willing eat fruit, but he does like veg.

I genuinely mean this in the nicest possible way OP but if you have the attitude of rewarding with junk food, while healthy food is some sort of burden to be borne ("forced") then getting veg into your DCs will be very hard work.

I'm sorry to come across as sanctimonious, I shouldn't be - I sat picking watercress out of an egg sandwich in pret yesterday for 3yr old DD, who deemed it "yucky" without even trying it, grrrrrr - but if the prevailing family attitude is swapped around ie healthy food is yummy, nice, treat food while junk food is something to be "forced" down when there is no alternative, things do get easier.

Sorry again for sounding like a knob, but it is an important change in attitude to food.

Mare I suspect that it wasn't the finding of a restaurant which annoyed them but your instructions which were rather specific. I do think it rude when people do this. My friend's son was staying with me whilst she had a long appointment and she texted me halfway through the day to say "Can you get X a McDonalds today please as he likes them and I know hell be missing me."

And I thought this very cheeky.

If you want your kids to eat certain foods, then you supply them! It's not exactly difficult. Your parents probably thought they'd treat their grandchildren, and didn't appreciate being dictated to about it, tbh.

Besides, I'm sure their house had SOME vegetables in it you could have cut up for DC?

'Force' healthy food down them?

If you feel that it's that much of a battle why do you think it's ok for your parents to have that battle but not you. You were BU for being demanding when you didn't bother putting that effort in for yourself.

OP my kids refuse fruit too, but will eat cooked veg, so I'm a veg obsessive. However, on this occasion I think YABU.

Firstly, one weekend without veg isn't going to do them any harm.

Secondly, whenever my kids are looked after by someone who isn't a paid or regular carer, I just let them make the decisions. If my kids go to friends, the parents will sometimes say "I'm taking them to the cinema, then we thought we'd have lunch in McDondalds, is that OK?" I always agree, because they're doing me a favour having my kids, why would I make their lives harder by being picky about it? Of course it's different if it's someone who looks after your kids regularly - you wouldn't want them eating veg-free junk food several times a week, but as a treat now and then it's fine.

where on earth where you where the local restaurants don't serve veg?????

25th anniversary buffet without any vegetables/salad?what on earth were you eating?

I agree, Postchildren, would like to know what was on the buffet.

The party was at a local pub, so quiche, sarnies, pizza slices, prawns etc.

I did provide a plate salad so they had a bit of cucumber.

And when I say forced i mean the conversation went "you can choose what you want to eat" "CHEESE BURGER" how do i then convert that to a healthy dish without it being forcing your choice on them?

I asked the pub about salad the answer was, potato salad, cherry tomatoes and coleslaw.

As my son is so good at eating cooked veg with our main meal i have never really bothered that he doesn't eat fruit or much salad.

I can't actually think of many places that wouldn't serve some form of vegetable though so it's hardly a huge chore...where on earth were your parents looking that they had to go to "many places" to find vegetables? I'm assuming you weren't expecting an exclusively veg but instead some sort of side.

This ^ is what I was thinking.

Op, I think you were being silly. If this was of so much concern to you, you should've fed them the healthy meals and let your parents take them out for something else. Or to look at it another way, if you're willing to feed your DCs unhealthy food, why should the onus be on your parents to do something different?

Although I don't think it's a huge deal to find a restaurant with vegetables. Is it possible your sister saw an opportunity to point out that you were being silly and slightly exaggerated?

I don't think one solitary weekend without vegetables is going to cause any long term damage, or any damage at all. I think your parents were kind enough to take your children out to lunch without you insisting they found a place that had veg.
If you were that concerned you could have found something with veg in at the service station, a lot of the service station places have cafés which serve full meals or they have an M&S in which you could have bought the required five-a-day. It's not worth falling out about or making your well intentioned parents feel like they had to put themselves out.

Look. I don't want to be harsh with you because I think you really think you are being supermum here. But you are being a pain and you will piss people off. You've only to read any of the 'difficult eaters' threads here to know some kids go years without veg and you're kicking up about one weekend.
In the nicest possible way - the grip shop is >>>>> that way. It might still be open.

Far from, oh i do beed some grips, thank you

YABU (and it is spelt vegetables by the way). And what is 'beed some grips??

You were being unreasonable making your parents do the hard job, while you fed them the crap they choose. You should have let your patents take them where they wanted. You were selfish, yes.

I don't think the options of the veg at the party were that bad - coleslaw is veg?!

If you were that bothered about carting veg around then carrot sticks/cherry tomatoes in tupperware box in cool bag with ice blocks for the journey would've sufficed.

no need to let parents source veg or place extra pressure on them to supply this.