To ask what you do at the weekend - feeling lonely :(

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My DP works abroad, he has just left for another 2 month stint.. and I am left at home feeling very lonely! I don't have many friends as we're new to the area and although we are planning we don't have any children yet.. so it's just me and the dogs all weekend!

Week days aren't too bad.. normally I'm so tired after work I just walk the dogs, eat some food and fall asleep! But I find the weekend hard.. work colleagues are busy having family time and I don't want to feel like I'm intruding.

So.. can I ask what fun things other mumsnetters do at the weekend that don't involve snuggling up with your OH on the sofa (that will just make me jealous!!) I'd like to find a weekend activity (preferably an evening one) that would get me out of the house and meeting new people.

Thanks in advance!

Or jump on the train, come to London and I'll show you my group

Was going to suggest dog agility but you already do that in the week.

What about volunteering at the local animal shelter to dog walk, surely they must need help at the weekend?

Buy a horse

I do pole fitness, horse riding and salsa vlasses. The salsa scene around here is very friendly and sociable, much more so than other kinds of dancing as you normally have a freestyle at the end where everyone dances with each other.

I know you said evening but parkrun on a Saturday morning is great.

I'm also a member of a book club and we have lots of fun drinking wine and arguing over books.

Adopt an old person?

I'm only half joking , I have a friend who does wrvs visiting and loves it. I take my ancient dad out of his home and wheel him round interesting places. Sometimes DH or the kids come but mostly it's just me. We had the best day ever at the safari park on Friday :)

If your neighbour is single and has a child, why not go round to her house with a bottle at the weekend? It would be easier for her than her coming to yours.

I know this is an old thread, but just in case OP is still reading...

I learned about a thing called Girl Crew a few months ago. It seems like a great idea. I have joined the FB group for my local one but haven't worked up the courage to attend any events yet though. They have a website with all the info you need on it. Not sure if I am allowed to link directly.

MeetUp.com

Depends on where you live, but generally you can find loads of interest groups on here (from the weird to the wonderful).

I moved to London four years ago and didn't know anyone - found it very hard to make friends for a long time.

MeetUp for me was something of a mixed bag - you can do lots of interesting things (my focus was women's meet-ups, as was sorely lacking in female friends), but often you end up meeting lots of different people each time, which doesn't necessarily always lead to long-term friendships, if that's what you're primarily after (as I was). I wouldn't overdo the groups either - stick to one or two and keep going, rather than (as I did) spread yourself over multiple groups and never see the same people two events running!

In the end, I made friends finally from a very unexpected source - I run something of an informal Alzheimers support group for London girls in their twenties and thirties (like me). We meet up each month for a drink, bite and a chat - difference being that in each case a loved one is affected by dementia, and we couldn't really find anything similar by way of existing support groups.

I guess my point is that "genuine" friendship tended in my case to stem from finding a real point in common with people, and then pursuing that - perhaps you could think about what you really like / enjoy / care about and focus on finding people of a similar vein...?

Walking - on your own or with a local group.

Sport - join a club or gym or go swimming.

Volunteer - I'm on the waiting list for a local canine partner group.

Learn something new - there are free online MOOCs.

Gardening, DIY, housework, shopping etc.

I took up knife and axe throwing and joined a small gym. Made many friends at both

Spartans, I am afraid of you

Buy a horse. You will never have any time or money again.

What about something like this. It really is just strangers meeting up for supper somewhere. Have a read and see what you think.

supperclubfangroup.ning.com

My DD volunteers at a local arts centre as an usher at films. I know the local theatre also has volunteers showing people to seats etc (and you get to see the film/play)

weasel be afraid...very afraid!

It's quite soothing really, really chills me out

I played 2 1/2 hours of tennis yesterday. Most of the people I played with were going for a drink afterwards everyone welcome. Quite often tennis clubs have a bar in them which can be quite sociable.

I answer the phones on a helpline. This is voluntary and you can pick a weekend shift. It puts your own life in perspective and also you get to chat to other volunteers when no one calls.

Church!

(You don't have to be religious to go. )

Would it not be a bit boring hypocritical?