Easter eggs

[HappyAgainOneDay]

Another thread has prompted me to ask about eggs.

I have four grandchildren 14 with 16 and 18 with 21. When do I stop buying and posting Easter eggs? They've had Easter eggs given to them since toddler-time. Do I get the 18-year-old one but not his 21-year-old sister?

All at school or university with three oldest having part time jobs.

How do I say that I'm not buying any more when the time comes?

Most supermarkets do special offers on them so get all of them an egg and keep any spares for yourself. I'm 28 and my mum still buys me an Easter egg.

Just don't buy them. You shouldn't have to offer any explanations, you're not obliged to buy them. To be honest, it would be lovely if one of them bought you a little easter gift.

Stick a couple of quid in an envelope and tell them to buy their own if you feel the need to get them something...

My Mum sends my dc some money and let's them choose what they buy. Has done for a while now. Mine are 13, 11, 8 and 5 so I think yours are probably old enough to understand

Or you could follow mil's tactic of ignoring it completely but then treating them when she sees them.

It depends why you are stopping doing it really - because you need to save money, because they are too old ir because it's hassle.

Erm - about 14,16,18 and 21 years ago?

I can understand giving them if you visited, but posting seems excessive... But for adults I certainly don't think it's logical to buy them, you need to develop an adult relationship. So that means adult forms of interaction and gift giving - ie buy them a pint / a coffee or whatever when you meet up.

I think it very much depends on you and then. I'm 24, DSis 21 and DH is 30. My grannies buy us all an advent calendar and an easter egg. They know it makes us feel like kids in a nice way but we would never expect or demand and we see them a lot. Their argument is it's only a couple of quid but makes us smile and it's low hassle.

If you want to continue, I'm sure they'll be thrilled. If you don't, just don't send.

When you stop wanting to do it you should stop.

I have an elderly relative who sends chocolate eggs at Easter. They arrive all squashed and inedible. I've tried to tell her not to do this but she persists and would obviously be hurt if I was any more forceful about it.