Birthday party presents

[Lambzig]

Would IBU to put "no presents please" on DD's birthday party invitation, or is it rude and making assumptions?

She will be 5 and I will be inviting her whole class and a few others.

Firstly I She is a bit "I want, I want" at the moment and I don't like the idea of her getting a load of presents - she will no doubt get a crazy amount from relatives as it is.

Secondly, the area has a good social mix around the school, obviously I dont know anyone's individual circumstances, but I would hate for someone to not let their child come because they couldn't afford a gift.

I wouldn't.
If my child was invited to your child's party I would still take a present. Firstly because I don't like to be told what to do, secondly my child would want to give your child a present (presents are as much about the giver as the receiver) and lastly almost all 5 year olds are in a phase of 'I want'. You can teach her not to be greedy in other ways.

I did because dd's birthday was in the first week of reception year so we only knew a handful of people. I figured the parents had enough to do without shopping for a last minute gift for a child they didn't know.

Most people brought a gift, but it seemed to keep it to a minimum.

I worded it differently though.

Hmm, yes that was my thought, it sounds a bit prissy and bossy doesn't it? That's why I asked, it just felt awkward.

Can you please tell me what you put meglet?

I'd feel sorry for the child and if my child wanted to attend would ignore it and buy anyway.

The are plenty of ways to teach re "I want" than to remove birthday presents from a child's own party.

I wouldn't, not for a 5 yr old.
At that age they are learning all about the etiquette of 'taking a gift to a party you've been invited to', and, to be fair, it's your dd's birthday, not yours.
I'm all for adults saying no gifts (and have done for both my big birthday bashes over last 10+ years) but don't think it's fair on a 5 yr old.

YABU. Others will think you a bit odd...no matter your good reasoning (and it is good) they will mark you out as an oddball and you don't want that.

I did. DS 5th birthdaybirthday, joint party with another family, 40 ish kids invited. Just put a line at bottom of invite. Please don't bring presents to party , just your children.

Close friends gave them something nearer birthday. A few family's sent a token present to the party. No presents were opened at the party. We sent generic thank you for coming to my party letters afterwards. Didn't do party bags either, just cake and balloon. Havnt noticed it affecting DS socially at all.
When he has a small birthday tea some friends bring a present, some just a card. It doesn't matter.