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AIBU?

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to think people that just believe unquestionably what doctors say are naïve

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dhdjdbrjrkbr · 04/02/2015 19:48

So my sisters ds age 2 has very bad eczema, i used to have the same but changed my diet and it cleared up in months despite taking prescription stuff for decades that only made it a bit better.

So ds go said to my sister eczema is nothing to do with diet. She just beleives him and is ignoring me.

Medical advice is changing all the time, it wasn't that long ago doctors were advertising cigarettes.

Aibu to think she is very naive?

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lljkk · 04/02/2015 19:52

Sounds like you want to control your sis.

rinabean · 04/02/2015 19:54

You don't know that it's the same

I mean he's literally 2. You cannot have been suggesting this for that long so why are you so annoyed?

Quitethewoodsman · 04/02/2015 19:55

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Lyndie · 04/02/2015 19:55

Actually it was over 50 years ago that doctors were advertising cigarettes.

Redhead11 · 04/02/2015 19:56

It frequently has nothing to do with diet, so you ABU. Everyone is different. It may well be that your sister has tried a diet change - i was advised to change DD1' diet, what i washed her clothes in, what she was bathed in... you name it, i changed it and not a damned thing made a bit of difference. I fact, changing to non-bio washing powder just made everything worse. So i would continue to listen to the doctor. It is great it worked for you, but it doesn't work for everyone.

JoanHickson · 04/02/2015 19:57

Science and doctors do not know everything. Many speak as if they do. They only know what is currently available to them.

Annunziata · 04/02/2015 19:57

Do I have a medical degree? No.
Do I get one by typing my problems in google? No.

So yes, I do listen to my doctor, he has much more training than I do.

even although he just shouts too fat, too fat at me, but never mind

paxtecum · 04/02/2015 19:58

Quite: I get eczema after eating eggs.
I get eczema after eating dairy.

I agree with the op.

I had bad acne until I was 30. It went because I stopped eating dairy.

PunkrockerGirl · 04/02/2015 19:59

Something that worked for you may not work for your dn. Personally I would always take the advice of a medical professional over anecdotal evidence.
YABU. Your sister may feel (as I do) that there's no point going to the doctor's if you're not going to at least try what they suggest.

Likeaninjanow · 04/02/2015 20:00

I think GPs are exactly that 'general practitioners'. Mine told me he was '100%' positive that my son's eczema wasn't caused by allergens in my breast milk. We discovered he was wrong when my DS was blue lighted to hospital when I started him on solids. I would only question their opinion when I'd researched extensively though(as I had).

MorrisZapp · 04/02/2015 20:03

People like you get my back right up, sorry. My mum is like this. Whatever worked for her, she insists others must do too.

She gets quite shirty when people say well no I'm dealing with the issue another way.

Let her get on with it, and give friendly advice. Don't say oh but what do doctors know.

Mrsstarlord · 04/02/2015 20:06

My DS is 11 and has lifelong eczema which has been treated with every cream under the son, all the homeopathic treatments / natural remedies we have read about, exclusion diets, allergy tests etc etc (next step is a special filter).

It's so annoying when people think that because their eczema or child's eczema cleared up with oats in the bath (or whatever), his will too (particularly when they know how many things we have tried). As if we would rather pile shitloads of steroids on him and spend an hour a day trying to eradicate dust mites from the house than keep him off cows milk or use aloe vera.

That said, our doctors were bloody terrible and I had to take the NICE guidance into an appointment to point out what they should be doing.

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dhdjdbrjrkbr · 04/02/2015 20:06

I'm not insisting she must do as I do just that she listens to me, I'm just offering another voice and suggesting the gp doesn't know it all.

Glad to hear others have resolved eczema though diet also :)

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KERALA1 · 04/02/2015 20:07

Some gps are crap though. I was 8 months pregnant on crutches with spd and the gp was insistent I had a sports injury. My 84 year old grandfather suddenly went off food and lost weight his gp diagnosed anorexia - turned out to be stomach cancer surely a more obvious thing for a cheerful 84 year old who loved his food with those symptoms.

ApocalypseThen · 04/02/2015 20:10

It's pretty arrogant to imagine you know better than someone who has studied extensively and probably also has a few years professional experience.

People are far too quick to dismiss expertise. You are far, far safer taking rather than ignoring your doctor's advice.

Tisiphone · 04/02/2015 20:14

No, you shouldn't simply swallow anything a medical professional tells you - they have had a lot of specialised training, but are as liable to lapses and errors as anyone, and you are the one who knows your own body and medical history best.

But this doesn't sound as if it's about that. You've no reason to think this GP is in any way inadequate, and it sounds as though you're primarily annoyed your sister is choosing not to act as if you are an authority on her child's medical condition just because you're a fellow-sufferer.

Eczema is pretty complicated, anyway. My godson had it incredibly badly as a baby and toddler, and his mother did every possible food exclusion over a period of years, to no avail. He eventually grew out if it. But that doesn't mean that it's not caused by a food group in another child...

lljkk · 04/02/2015 20:16

You're allowed to voice your opinion & she's allowed to ignore it.

lljkk · 04/02/2015 20:16

The only problem you've complained about is the fact that she's ignoring you.

WD41 · 04/02/2015 20:18

I would be more inclined to listen to a doctor than a relative with (presumably) no medical training. So no, I don't think she's naive.

andnowforsomemoreofthesame · 04/02/2015 20:22

GPs are only human and medicine is incredibly complex. So I tend to question them a lot.

DoJo · 04/02/2015 20:23

I'm not insisting she must do as I do just that she listens to me, I'm just offering another voice and suggesting the gp doesn't know it all.

Sounds like she has listened to you and decided to go with the advice of a medical professional instead. 'Listening' to you and 'doing what you say' aren't the same thing.

Out of interest, what dietary changes did you suggest?

JennieR60 · 04/02/2015 20:29

Yes coz it's wise to listen to one persons experience who has no medical training over someone who has been trained and probably seen more cases than you've had hot dinners.

itsmeitscathy · 04/02/2015 20:34

I don't trust doctors, but I still trust them more than someone who has no medical training. Barbers sometimes got it miraculously right back In the day through blood letting...I'm not planning in trying it anytime soon....

Dawndonnaagain · 04/02/2015 20:36

Some have resolved things through diet, some haven't. Up to them what they try.

geekymommy · 04/02/2015 20:44

You're allowed to tell her your opinion. ONCE. After that, if she wants to hear it again, she will ask. Don't keep bringing it up. She's allowed to decide that, for whatever reason, changing her son's diet is not going to work for her.

(I shudder at the thought of trying to change a 2 year old's diet- getting my 2.5 year old DD to try ANYTHING new is a struggle)

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