To find it irritating when people want to give you their diets?

[mytartanscarf]

When you say you need want to lose some weight and they start to tell you authoratively how to do it!

Drives me mad!

Really? They're probably just telling you what works for them... If you tell people you want to lose weight they're going to share their tips.

YABU

Diets are like the weather, we all comment and can't help talking about them.

I swear by cutting out bread and pasta have you tried that?

Well I know they're just telling me what works for them. It's still irritating!

I don't volunteer I'm dieting but people notice.

San - I'll get you later

I find it really uncomfortable when people tell me they need to lose weight.

I mean, what is the correct response to that?

Yeah you do - too blunt.
No you don't - lie.
Hmmm or saying nothing - vague/rude.
Share diet tips - drives them mad.

If you say you need/ want to lose weight, aren't you opening a discussion so that the other person has to say something? Perhaps offering dietary advice is the least controversial response they can come up with.

YABU

It is generally irritating when people obsess about their weight. If you say you want to lose some weight - how do you expect others to respond? 'Oh, that's nice' or 'Oh, how fascinating' you get my drift. Others are more articulate and nicer than me, but yes, YABU

I don't say I want to lose weight! But obviously people notice as I don't join in with social occasions involving food or drink - which is most social occasions!

*When you say you need want to lose some weight and they start to tell you authoratively how to do it!

Drives me mad!*

Erm- sorry - I think we have all misunderstood your OP

Oooh, oooh, ooooh... But have you tried the 5:2 diet?

Really I tried not to post this but the urge was irresistible! Its an amazing diet and its only for two days a week which I enjoy in a perverse, masochistic way.

Sorry I know I ABU!

Yes Summer you are BVU as we all know that the diet of choice on Mumsnet is Low Carbing

'When you say you need to lose weight'

'I don't say I want to lose weight'

Lol sunmer

Snowing, I mean when people ask why you aren't eating or drinking and I just reply i am losing weight.

Some people are making it sound like I took out a front page spread in the daily mail

I'd need a sad face photo for that OP!

This irritates me too! Especially one of the women at work who's on the "5:2" diet. She's constantly saying how hungry she is or "oh I really shouldn't have this biscuit, but I can't help it" and yet she tries to convince us that it's a great and sustainable diet.

So I will see you tomorrow then tea?

Now if you will excuse me I need to google low carbing. Thank you durham.

[Berates self for mumsnet...]

[Visits google once again for spelling...]

[Faux par]

Faux pas. Its a faux pas!

Well, stop bringing it up, and giving them the opportunity to share their diet 'insights'! That female bonding 'ooh, naughty carbs/Dukan/low-carb/palaeo/ cabbage soup/whatever' all-in-it-together-girls diet thing is maddening. It's the permanent topic of conversation at a toddler group I take my son to, along with the Nutribullet and 'detoxing' via swigging aloe vera.

I've just lost four stone without mentioning it to anyone other than my husband. If anyone says 'You've lost weight', I smile vaguely and change the subject. Really, other people's diets are like other people's dreams - of zero interest.

I am delirious with hunger!

[Whispers "tisi.......how did you do it?"]

I don't tisi but the type of diet I so naturally eradicates any sort of social eating or drinking, so naturally people notice if you aren't eating. It isn't as if I'm going on and on about it!

You're inviting the comments by saying you're dieting. I used to do the same thing. Change your response to 'Oh, aren't you having anything?' and they'll shut up.

Honestly. 'It looks lovely, but I'm not hungry/thirsty.' Or 'I'll have some in a bit, thanks.'

Summerhouse .

Mytartanscarf, I did a VLCD that precluded any social eating, too. But I still didn't talk about it. I either cancelled social occasions that involved eating, or just had a coffee if it was a lunch/elevenses situation, or arranged to meet people after the meal and before the theatre/film/whatever. No one seemed to find this odd.

I think people are pretty incurious, really. I bake cake every week for the toddler group I take DS to, and I'd be very surprised if anyone has noticed that I haven't eaten any of it since the summer.

Mines a vlcd as well :) however I do sometimes have to "eat" (have a shake!) in front of people and that's when the comments start. Also you can't sit in a restaurant and not eat anything at all without inviting comments. I go out, because I want to see my friends, but I'm not breaking my diet. And then people comment :)

My "drives me mad" didn't mean literally. Minor annoyance but still annoying I suppose!

Oh, I get that it's difficult, Tartan. It probably helped that on many occasions I was out for a meal, it was tapas-type sharing and/or I had my toddler DS and/or husband with me, so I was technically 'sharing' their food, and it probably blurred the issue of whether or what I was eating. I wasn't a social leper by any means. We've had people staying for weekends and dinner parties, even.

I've never eaten the diet products at a meal with others, though - I would keep a bar in my pocket and eat it on the go.