to think im going to miss out...

[CharleyFarleyy]

Im going to work full time soon, DD is nearly 7 months. I just feel like im going to miss out on EVERYTHING. Im worried shes not even going to remember me because ill be gone before she wakes up in the morning and back after shes asleep at night in the week days

AIBU?

I wouldn't worry.

Most parents work, the country is not full of baffled children with no clue who their parents are

Plenty of people work away for months at a time, with no issue at all. It will be fine for you, as it is for everyone else.

Of course not.
You've liked being home with her.
For me, I couldn't wait to get back to work and to have some adult interaction.
However, I did see my DD in the mornings at drop off and I did collect her in the evenings and feed her and bath her and read and put to bed.
I wouldn't have liked not seeing her at all in the week.
What time will you need to leave in the morning and what time will you be home.
Seems you will be working a very long day.
Who will be looking after DD while you work?

I went back at 6 months full time. I pushed back bedtime so I had some time with DS in the evening. I bath him and put him to bed. We also cosleep so he's got me all night though it also has it's drawbacks I admit. Your DD knows who her Mummy is, you carried her around for 9 months :)

thank you all! definitely making me feel better..

Im not going to be working overly long hours, its the commute that makes me away for so long hoping that me or DP will be getting a car soon though so it wont be as bad then. I could also maybe push bedtime back a but as well, she goes to bed at 6 at the mo which is pretty early so that could help.

DP will look after her 2 days a week and nursery for 3 days.

My DH has always worked full time while I'm part time and arguably the kids are closer to him than me. As long as you still spend time with your DD when you're off work I'm sure you'll be very close.

If it's a long commute look for a job closer to home.
I did that and it helped massively!
Definitely move bedtime back.
Start doing it now.
5-10 minutes a night until it's around 7pm.
Will that help?
Get saving and get that car.

I would move bedtime back (although there is something to be said for missing that time of day ha!). My husband works a lot and the children still adore their Daddy.

My DH works hours that mean he doesn't often get to see ds (11 months) during the week. I can confirm that DS does know who he is at weekends! Or if he happens to wake up early etc

Have just had a conversation with DH where I explained that I have to get ds to bed for 7/7.30 so that I get an hour with his big sister (6) before bed. He does find it sad (like you) but understands the routine I need to do.

(PS I am a wohm too but work irregular hours - sometimes from home, sometimes in the evening, sometimes I am away and DH needs to get back earlier etc).

Agree with moving bedtime. Mine goes to bed at 8.

Being a geek I read all the research on the topic of different daycares etc when I was considering working. The thing that has the biggest impact on the kids whatever their childcare arrangement is still their parents. Kids in full time daycare maintain their attachment to their parents and you're still the most important people in their lives.

thank you again everyone

Will start trying to make bedtime later