My OH worked for a Bus Company in the office. He worked long hours, but the pay was good. He moaned about it for about 18 months, but it wasn't too bad. Anyway, at the start of this year, the firm was taken over. He is now a driver again, and a substitute supervisor. However, he was offered a job in the new company at roughly the same level as before. He has also been offered jobs at other places, at similar or higher levels. He has taken a pay cut at this new company, and we went 2 weeks without money, and so are behind on some payments. He and I are understandably stressed about the money, but we are entitled to a couple of benefits that we weren't before, and when they come in, we will be about the same as before, and I know we will be okay in a couple of weeks. I'm also self employed, so we have that coming in. So I personally am not overly worried, it is nothing we can't handle. But his constant griping about his work situation is really wearing me down. It turned into an argument today, where I told him he can't complain, he has the opportunity to do what he did before. He has also been offered training for his HGV (something he wants to do) which he won't do. He has all these opportunities, but all he does is turn them down and moan about his lot. Money is going to be tight for a few weeks, but the end is in sight. I am trying so hard to be understanding, but I am starting to find excuses to not be around him as I cannot cope with his constant whining any more. Our daughter has development delay, and our son is going through assessments for Autism and maybe other things, and he doesn't seem to care about that! I just think that we can control our money situation, we can control his job situation (if he would just do something). I need to be concentrating on the children, and not worrying about things that wil be fixed soon! Sorry for the rant. I probably sound awful and uncaring, but it has been over a month now, plus the whining the previous 18 months. Done now :)